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For George Floyd: 'Keep my brother's name ringing!' by Terrence Floyd - 2020

June 3, 2020

1 June 2020, Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA


First of all …Hello.

Audience:
Hello, hello.


I understand you all upset, but I can deservedly say, I dealt in y’all’s habits of society.

Audience:
Come on, now. I can’t hear. Speak.


So if I’m not over here wilding out, if I’m not over here blowing up stuff …
… if I’m not over here messing up my community, then what are y’all doing?

Audience:
White nationalists.


What are y’all doing? Y’all doing nothing, because that’s going to bring my brother back at all.

Audience:
It’s not us. It’s Donald Trump’s buddies. Yeah, Donald Trump’s buddies is right.


It may feel good for the moment, just like when you drink, but when it come down, you going to wonder what you did.

My family is a peaceful family. My family is god fearing.

Audience:
Amen.


Yeah, we upset, but we not going to take it, we not going to be repetitious. In every case of police brutality, the same thing has been happening.

Audience:
Yes, sir.

Y’all protest, y’all destroy stuff, and they don’t move. You know why they don’t move? Because it’s not their stuff, it’s our stuff.

Audience:
That’s it.


So they want us to destroy our stuff.

Rev. Kevin McCall:
Come on, guy.


They’re not going to move.

Audience:

Yes, sir. It’s the truth.

So let’s do this another way.

Audience:
That’s right. Come on now, brother.


Let’s do this another way.

Audience:
Yes, let’s fix this city. They’re going to try to take it. Let’s fix this city. Speak. And get our people into office. They’re going to try to come build. Let’s fix this city.


Y’all right. Let’s do this another way. Let’s stop thinking that our voice don’t matter and vote.

Rev. Kevin McCall:
There you go.


Audience:
Vote.


Not just vote for the president, vote for the preliminaries, vote for everybody.

Audience:
Justice


Educate yourself.

Audience:
Educate and agitate.

Educate yourself. Don’t wait for somebody else to tell you who’s who. Educate yourself and know who you’re voting for.

Audience:
That’s right. You’re right.


And that’s how we going to hit them, because it’s a lot of us.

Audience:
Hard.


It’s a lot of us.

Rev. Kevin McCall:
That’s right.


Audience:
Hell yeah.


It’s a lot of us.

And we still going to do this peacefully, because that’s when we going to get them, because we going to fool them. They think we going to do this, they think we’re going to do something, and we’re going to switch it on them.

Audience:
Change it up.


Let’s switch it up, y’all. Let’s switch it up.
Do this peacefully, please.
My brother moved here from Houston, and I used to talk to him on the phone. He loved it here. He started driving a truck. He was good. So I highly doubt … no. I know, he would not want y’all to be doing this. And I’m not saying the people here. Whoever’s doing it, relax.

Audience:
It ain’t us, man. It ain’t us. It ain’t us. Come on, brother. Come on, brother. It’s okay, brother. It’s okay. It’s okay. Take your time, take your time. Take your time. Come on, brother.

And I like Reverend McCall said, “Peace on the left … ”

Rev. Kevin McCall:
Justice on the right.


Did I forgot already?

Audience:
Peace on the left, justice on the right.


Peace on the left.

Audience:
Justice on the right.


Peace on the left.

Audience:
Justice on the right.

Peace on the left.

Audience:
Justice on the right.


Peace on the left.

Audience:
Justice on the right.


I says that. Who says that? Peace on the left.

Audience:
Justice on the right.


Justice on the right.

Audience:
Peace on the right.


Right, that’s what I’m saying. That’s what I want to see. Peace on the left.

Audience:
Justice on the right.


Peace on the left.

Audience:
Justice on the right.


Peace on the left.

Audience:
Justice on the right.


Peace on the left.

Audience:
Justice on the right.


That’s what I’m talking about.

Audience:
We love you, brother.


On behalf of the Floyd family, thank you. Thank you for the love.

Audience:
We love you.


Thank you for the flowers. Thank you for the memorials.

Audience:
That was my family.


Thank you.

Audience:
Don’t mention it. Thank you, brother.


Now before I go, I just want to hear this again. What’s his name?

George Floyd.

What’s his name?

Audience:
George Floyd.


What’s his name?

Audience:
George Floyd.


What’s his name?

Audience:
George Floyd.


George.

Audience:
Floyd.

George.

Audience:
Floyd.


George.

Audience:
Floyd.


George.

Audience:

Floyd


Lert us pray for peace. I thank you.

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For Pankaj Bhasin: 'Mom, why do the best people die?' by Divya Emanuel - 2017

May 14, 2020

14 September 2017, Mandai Crematorium Singapore, Singapore

Written by Divya but read by her husband Vivek because Divya was in Australia

“Mom, why do the best people die?”
“When you’re in a garden, which flowers do you pick?”
“The most beautiful ones.”

There was only one kind of Pankaj. He was the guy with a funny bone, he could make you laugh so hard, you had to beg him to stop because he’d keep going till tears were streaming down you face.

He was a storyteller, he’d take inane situations and narrate it with his own twist - dialogue and action, it was his gift. He loved seeing people laugh. The more you laughed the more he notched it up. His joy was seeing others happy.

He was a gentle giant at 6 ft 4” with a big heart. He felt strongly about everything. He loved his parents and sister fiercely. He was besotted to Bably. His girls were his pride and his late pet Paris (an English Mastiff) proved he never did anything low- key.

They say if you want to know a person, see how he treats his staff. He never had a negative thing to say about his help. Even when he didn't need the additional support he got while his dad was ill, he refused to let her go because he couldn't imagine her being without a job.

He was a friend collector. Once he made a friend, he cherished them. He kept in touch with friends all the way from his college days. That’s how I got to know him. Pankaj and my husband Vivek did they Engineering together in India. My husband not the best at staying in touch, bumped into Pankaj years later in Singapore and that’s how our families became friends. His house always had guests. If it wasn't family, it was friends. He made it a point to meet them when he travelled to their destination or they visited him in Singapore.

He was a talker. When he called, you couldn't make it a quick one because he called to catch up. To share something about his life or find out about yours. He cared about everyone that crossed his path. He was emotional. He was deeply affected by the 2012 Delhi gang rape case and wanted to join politics to bring change. He wanted people around him to be equally affected and he could convince you with his passion.

He was a sharp business man and a wealthy one at that. Everything he touched turned to gold. He loved making money and living the good life. But he was also a giver. He gave without expecting anything in return.

He had impeccable taste. From his car, to his house, to his clothes, to his dog, he could raise an eyebrow with his eye for style. And Bably raised the bar with him. His one weakness was good food. He was a small eater but every morsel had to count. And he was very appreciative of good food, exclaiming in joy with every bite, the effort of the cook couldn't be more valued.

He was a homebody. He enjoyed staying in and entertaining over heading out for the evening. He was an attentive host who took pains to find out what you'd like to eat and drink, then he’d shop with Bably, and come up with a menu so amazing, it beat restaurant standards.

His table conversation covered unspeakable things. For those who were not familiar, it could be a real shock at first but soon warm up to the sex, toilet habits and a whole range of taboo topics.
He kept in touch with his masis, buas (aunts), mama (uncles), cousins like they all lived in the neighborhood. He cared for the wellbeing of his in-laws and Bably brothers like his own. He had a short temper but only his dearest got to see that side of him.

When his dad was diagnosed with mild lymphoma in August 2014 in India, Pankaj brought him to Singapore for treatment because he didn’t want his parents to go through that alone. That was an intense year for him, Bably and he had just had their 3rd child in May that year, but he was the ever-devoted son. Unfortunately, on the cusp of his father’s cure came the diagnoses of his cancer, acute lymphoblastic leukemia in June 2015. He was worried but didn't cave under that pressure, instead he went equipped with all the knowledge he could gather and this time, got the best doctor for himself. Every time something came up, he came up with another alternative. He never gave in to cancer. He was positive to the last day that he would beat it because he left nothing to chance.

But being a practical chap, he started thinking about his young wife with equally young girls. He came up with SA-ME-ZA a father’s love for his daughters. The name represented his 3 daughters - Sana, Meher and Naweeza. He devoted 2 years while undergoing treatment to make this premium basmati rice brand Bably’s new venture, because he wanted his family to have a backup plan if things went south for him.

His biggest disappointment today would be, he didn't get the better of cancer. Not once did he cower in the face of the disease. He faced it like he did everything in his life, looking for a solution. He wanted to live because he loved life. He wanted to live so he could continue to love Bably. He wanted to live because he wanted his daughters to grow up having a father.

Today, each of us grieve the loss of one man but in so many different forms: a devoted son, a doting brother, a caring nephew, a loving cousin, a friend who had your back, a besotted husband and a proud dad. What will stay with us though is his laughter and his love for life which was snatched too soon from us.

Bably, Sana, Meher, and Naweeza your loss is irreplaceable.

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Three firends: Jessica, Linda and Divya

For Jessica Chan: 'Laugh as much as you breathe', by Divya Emanuel - 2015

May 12, 2020

15 January 2015, Our Lady of Lourdes Church, Singapore

Laugh as much as you breathe
Love as long as you live

These two lines sum up Jessica. She always had a smile on her face, laughed loudly and heartily. She spoke with passion and with such vehemence you wouldn't want to cross words with her. She loved food, friends and family. She was an impassioned Singaporean who showed us, her motley group of friends what true Singapore hospitality was.

She had a fiery temper, loved possessively and dearly and disliked with just as much fervor. She picked her friends carefully, but once inside her circle, it was a very special bond to be wrapped in.

Before I met Jess, our sons who were 6 months old were friends first. Jess used to bring Julian to the Bayshore clubhouse and my mum used to take my son there. While the boys played, Jess and my mum became friends. When my mum left for India, she asked me to go meet this lady Jess. One morning I went to the clubhouse, little knowing I was going to make a friend for life. So, thank you to 2 little boys here, for giving their mummies' such a beautiful journey to experience.

Life with Jessica was one big party. She organized endless events for the group. We participated in Christmas day lavish dinner, Chinese New Year open house, Julian’s birthday bash, Lantern festival, Halloween, all happening year after year. In between all that there were BBQs, trips to Pula Ubin and food trails to explore. She not only loved her friends dearly; she extended that love to our families every time they visited Singapore. If one thing shows in all of this, it was her energy and zest for life. She embraced it and made the best of her very short, young life.

When she was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer early last year in March 2014 at 46, Linda and I sat crying by her side ...she cried with us but by then had sorted this disease in her head. She told us her life had been full & complete and she had no regrets. She married the love of her life, travelled, had Julian her miracle child and lived in a landed house, a Singapore dream. She accepted her fate and felt blessed for the life she had enjoyed.

Jessica's threshold for pain was very low and her wish was to pass away quickly. Unfortunately, her suffering was long and painful. Watching her these last couple of months, was the hardest thing to do.

Her pain is finally over. She was robbed of a full life, and has gone too early from us but as she lays peaceful, I know she's always going to be present among us , dishing out her worldly wisdom because that's what ten glorious years with her has given us - beautiful memories to love, cherish and hold onto.
We will miss you forever Jess .


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For Jade Barker: 'You are loved by all, we are incredibly sad that for a moment you lost sight of this love', by Maree Angus - 2018

May 9, 2020

25 July 2018, Hobart, Tasmania, Australia

Maree is the mother of Jade

Good morning. Thank you all for joining Jade’s family to celebrate her life. Our thanks also to Jill and the Millingtons for their efforts in ensuring today’s service is just right. Jade would have it no other way.
As her Mum...and her senior English teacher, I am very aware of how eloquent Jade was....and am feeling a little pressured...as I know how well she would have spoken if our roles had been reversed… as we had always expected.

So I’m sorry Jade…I’m not speaking with just a few dot points jotted on a piece of high quality paper, as you would have done… …and I may even read quite a lot…but Jade, know the words come from a place of love…they are from everyone who has reminded me of your strength, your conviction, your passion and your many other skills. A common observation from so many has been how much love and care you have always given to others, we worry that perhaps you didn’t take enough time to care for yourself.

Phil, thank you for allowing me to pay tribute to Jade on behalf of you, Ben and Eliot, Jade’s grandmother Marjorie and her sister Katie, your Mum Leonie, and although he is no longer with us, your father Graeme, Jade’s father Vynn and partner, Chrissie, my partner, Denis and each of our extended families.

As Phil and I have discussed, Jade’s passing cannot define the life of a wife and Mum, a granddaughter, a daughter and daughter in law, a sister and sister in law, a niece, a work colleague, a volunteer and a friend. As each of you know, Jade was so much more than the darkness that has sometimes overcome her throughout her life and obviously became too much for her to bear last week.

I’m sure since losing Jade, we have all reflected on our times with her, the fun, the discussions…ok ..discussion may be an euphemism for heated arguments about issues and causes Jade passionately believed in… the placards…the marches… the great food…the themed parties...the quirky costumes, the black tie fundraising balls …the dress up nights… and the very, very clever facebook posts that we all read and loved ...and wished we could emulate.

Some of you have probably seen or received one of her beautifully bound holiday organiser booklets…each day carefully planned, costed and timed ….Lonely Planet Guides don’t hold a torch to Jade’s productions. You may even have been with her in October or April and had to try to explain what to do with the clock when we changed to or from daylight savings…for a very bright women, she never quite understood THAT concept… You may have once mentioned to Jade that you needed help to organise something…and then found that a few days later she had not only organised everything for you… she had also provided you with a colour coded manual to ensure everything ran smoothly. ….and even if you haven’t been there in person, I’m sure you have at least seen a photo of the Barker/Millhouse clan in their Christmas outfits…although I’m still not 100% convinced that Phil wasn’t the ideas man for that annual tradition.

Let’s not let the manner of Jade’s passing overshadow the joy she bought to each of us. We must hold firmly to our memories ....replay them as often as we can ...and share them with Jade and Phil’s sons Ben and Eliot every chance we have. Because these memories are what really define Jade’s 40 years of living, not the tragedy of last week.

I know many of you have sat at that big timber table at Jade and Phil’s home, enjoying Jade’s amazing cooking topped off by Phil’s decadent deserts. At that table you have been embraced by the love and laughter that their home has always exuded.

Sitting there this week thinking about the many occasions that Jade and Phil had bought together friends and family, I recalled my first memory of Jade preparing food for others.

I was at teacher’s college and came out to the kitchen early one morning to find 6 year old Jade standing on top of two sandwiches...one foot on each. She had got up early...sliced the bread....fairly thickly...and made lunch for her sister, Katie and herself. Even at that young age Jade realised that food made with love needed to also be aesthetically pleasing. She clearly understood that a sandwich 10cm high didn’t quite look right...particularly for school and day care lunch boxes!

However......already solution focussed...tiny Jade had worked out that by wrapping the sandwiches in cling wrap and carefully stepping on them to flatten them out, the sandwiches would be much more appealing. And they were.... Katie had a lovely lunch, Jade’s creative skills in the kitchen were unleashed…and her mother began to buy the sliced bread Jade actually preferred!

It will come as no surprise that although Jade went to a number, at each of her schools she quickly made friends, was elected to leadership roles, joined sports teams, performed in plays and musicals and captained the debating team, competed at regional level in swimming and state level for athletics.
Even as a child Jade was a strong believer in “If I’m going to do it...I’m really going to do it…and I’m really going to do it well”.

Jade was a beautiful swimmer and although the stroke wasn’t pretty at first, she could swim the width of the pool before she turned two. When she returned to the coast to live, Vynn encouraged and supported her swimming and most mornings she would head off to swim training in the dark before school.
Those of you have seen Jade swim will know that the training paid off….particularly if you weren’t quick enough to say that you would “just make a donation” to the cause she was raising money for and had foolishly sponsored her for each lap she swam! Often a very costly exercise.

In addition to fundraising, highlights of Jade’s adventures in the water were swimming with her grandmother, Marj and the Winter Solstice Nude Swim…she loved both! I too love Marj, so can understand the joy of spending time in the pool with her…I’m still unsure of the appeal that nudie swims in the middle of winter this close to the south pole hold.. Perhaps that is just because I’m a mainlander!

When she lived on the Gold Coast, Jade was a coastie …she has always embraced the community she lived in…she wore Billabong clothes, owned the rip curl school bags and loved the beach. The one thing Jade couldn’t manage as a coastie though ...as any of you would know if you have been to the beach or pool or an outdoor activity with Jade...was a suntan… a beautiful shade of very hot pink…no trouble…Jade could become beetroot red simply sitting under an umbrella with a rashie on if the sun was shining.
When she came to western NSW to live Jade again embraced the lifestyle...”if Im livin in the country..Im going to ride horses, muster cattle, catch wild pigs and compete in dressage… and I’m going to be a country girl, I’m going to look the part...in a very short time the billabong and rip curl were gone and Jade was rocking the RM Williams boots, the turned up collars ..the pearls and the Akubra hat. I often wonder if this was the beginning of her lifelong love of dress up!

Kate reminded me that it was around this time that Jade began to really enjoy the challenge of running. Like most kids when they come home from school, Jade’s first stop was the fridge …she would open the door…check out the fridge contents…and then work out how many ks she needed to run before eating. Pavlova was usually a 5 ker across the paddocks…and off she would go. We both obviously cooked too much as Jade quickly became an accomplished long distance and cross country runner.

When Jade left school it was time to travel...she tried Sydney and Melbourne...again...if I’m going to do a city ...I’m going to do a real city...and we got phone calls to say “I’m off to London in three days”....and off she went. Jade lived in London for two years and like most Aussies working in London spent many short breaks doing Europe and loved the snowfields, the shops, the food and the parties. Jade seized these opportunities with both hands and really enjoyed her time working overseas.

Eventually Jade returned to Australia but decided that she would spend time in the West. Ben was born there. She was incredibly proud of Ben and of being a mother. This has never changed. And Ben, I know she would be particularly proud of your courage and of all that you have done in the past week. You and Eliot are a credit to your Mum and Phil, and to your extensive network of family and friends.

Not only is Ben a great son, he was also the impetus for Jade to head east and come home to Tasmania to be close to her Dad and her grandparents.

.....and then along came Phil...and as those clever Facebook posts continually affirmed, Jade had found her great love and with Phil and her sons Ben and Eliot the “best years “ of her life began.

I understand now the romance may have been a little tentative at first…simply because Phil was a very wary of one of his workmate who also happened to be Jade’s Dad, Vynn.

Despite this wariness, Jade and Phil’s romance quickly blossomed and Katie and I were very curious to meet this wonderful man…who was just sooo amazing and sooo amazing with Ben. I’m not sure if you remember, Phil, but we met you at Darling Harbour before you both went to a Powderfinger concert. Den, Katie and I all decided there and then you were a keeper…Jade had obviously already decided that she loved you and that you were a keeper…so you were actually a goner!

The birth of Eliot was another great milestone and Jade and Phil were now a family of four. Ever the romantic, Phil proposed on the beach in Bali…when somehow they had managed to have a quiet walk …not easy when three couples and four kids are holidaying together.

At Jade and Phil’s wedding, the speeches, although written separately by very different people all had a common theme…Jade and Phil’s deep love for each other and for Ben and Eliot, their strong partnership, their tendency to “dress up” and how their very different personalities and interests complemented each other.

Jade and Phil’s strong, loving relationship provided both with the safety net to allow them to step out of their comfort zone and try new things. I know Jade didn’t love the abseiling down the Gordon Dam…I think words like terror and fear were used…but she loved Phil so much that she mastered them…or at least lowered the decibels of her screams.

My favourite photo of Jade and Phil together is when they marched in Mardi Gras. I am sure that prior to meeting Jade, parading down Oxford Street bare chested and in a kilt was not on Phil’s top one hundred…however because Jade wanted him to, Phil joined in…and although it wasn’t on his “to do” list…I now know he actually loved it!! (Phrases like “looking buff and feeling like a rock star” may have been used…I know that was certainly the social media response to Phil’s participation in the march)

We all know that Jade had a very strong sense of social justice. The majority of her career choices and her volunteering have centred on this. Jade not only believed in, she fought and worked tirelessly to ensure everyone was cared for and treated justly. Jade gave up many hours of her time to volunteer on the boards of Women’s Health and TASCARD. She spent countless hours door knocking for the Labor party candidates and organising events to raise awareness and money to fight AIDs, to combat discrimination and to promote not just acceptance but celebration of diversity… to name just a few of her endeavours. Although like most of us, she didn’t support the plebiscite; Jade was overjoyed when the marriage equality act was passed.

Whatever she did, Jade did because she cared. She also did it because she wanted to ensure the world that their sons, Ben and Eliot would grow up in was one full of love, tolerance, equality and respect for everyone.

Jade adored Ben and Eliot …and adored her role as their mother. The boys were an enormous part of her happiest years. Phil and Jade’s house was made a home not just by the love shared between the four of them, but by the physical messages of love and inspiration, the quirky and beautiful personal touches, like the photo books, the carved rocks and the endless cushions. She was constantly thinking of how she could make things better for their sons. Jade generously threw herself whole heartedly into school activities and fundraising and the boys’ many sports. Jade didn’t hesitate to manage the soccer team, be the taxi for the boys and their friends…or host an awesome birthday party for Ben and Eliot. Their holidays whether to Bali or Noosa or Bruny were all planned around what the boys would enjoy. Ben and Eliot were the centre of the universe. Phil and Jade grabbed every opportunity they could to go to Bruny with the boys and family and friends and she loved it there. She also loved social media. I’m sure I’m not the only person who waited with bated breath for the next instalment that provided a window in to the lives of the Big one and the Small one! Ben and Eliot… many people know you well because your Mum loved you so much and proudly shared her joy in all that you did with the rest of the world on facebook.

The messages of condolences all refer to the importance Jade placed on her love of the boys and Phil. Eliot and Ben, Mum loved you dearly and the love you gave to her in return made her incredibly happy.
Phil, Ben and Eliot, this past week has been tough on everyone, but particularly on each of you. Our world has been turned upside down.

We all have many questions that may never be answered. What I do know, and what those of us who have known Jade her whole life know, is that her time with Phil, Ben and Eliot and the “Millhouses” has been the best 10 years of her life. Phil, I thank you for the love, the joy and stability you and your family have given Jade in your time together. I know that you have been told countless times by many people that she loved you, Ben and Eliot . I need to say it again.

In and beyond this room are people who love and care for each of you. Phil, yours and Jade’s warmth, love and friendship have created the village required to successfully raise wonderful young men. We wish we could help ease your pain, and we want you to know that we are all here to help you in the future.

Jade you are loved by all, we are incredibly sad that for a moment you lost sight of this love. We miss you and we love you. We hope that you now rest peacefully.

Jade died on 18 July 2018.


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For Peter Murray: 'The open road', by Phil Tschirn - 2017

May 9, 2020

June 2017, Gawler, South Australia, Australia

The open road. What a wonderful concept. To look out over the bonnet with nothing but possibilities ahead... Where the road is more about the journey than the destination.

Peter loved the open road. If you wanted to find mum and Peter on any Sunday, they were most probably driving. Out discovering the nooks and crannies of our great land… and looking at the roadworks! While you and I try to avoid roadworks, and are mostly irritated by the seemingly endless array of Orange Bollards….25km/h zones and stop-sign-wielding traffic wardens... That was not Peter...he loved it. 25km/h was just the right speed where he could get a good look at what they were doing... the new roadbuilding techniques. Stopping for the traffic warden gave him a great opportunity to check out the latest machinery being used on the job site.

In a way, I believe that he felt a kind of kinship with the road-makers. Because in a much smaller way, he helped to build and maintain many roads around Gawler. You see, Peter worked as a backhoe operator and ganger in the Gawler council for over 20 years where he was profoundly respected by his work mates and also by the council management. I found this out when Peter invited me to his retirement BBQ. You could have been mistaken for thinking that the mayor was leaving that day...not a worker on the gang. The CEO and Deputy mayor turned up... and gave long speeches and handed him silverware to thank him for his service. His boss Les proceeded to demonstrate the "burnt offering" ritual that Peter had conducted during his smoko and described Peter as the Liberace of the Backhoe, while many of his fellow workers gave a rousing reception to this shy unassuming, sometimes larrikin, who "just got on with the job without any fuss".

Peters road in life started at Wallaroo Hospital on the 28th of May 1947 and he returned to live in the family home at Kadina. He was the eldest of twin boys born that day…being 10 minutes older than Andy …his brother who lives in New Zealand presently. Ultimately, he was the 4th of six siblings His parents were very poor, but despite his tough upbringing he was a happy child who loved nothing more than to create things with his hammer and wood. In summer, he would regularly ride the 8km to Wallaroo to have a swim in the sea pool.

Once he left school and started along the road of his working life, Peter followed his brothers on some parts of their journey. One story that Peter told me of this time was when one of his brothers got him a job with the Mt Isa mines in outback Queensland. His brother hatched a scheme to have a weekend off. He told the mine management that their mum had died. The plan developed a life of its own when the mine management were so concerned that they organised a light plane to fly the two boys back to Brisbane... So, the boys accepted the flight and had a great weekend in Brisbane courtesy of a mother who was alive and well in South Australia.

Throughout his life, Peter has lived in a lot of different places (even in New Zealand ) but eventually he put his roots down in Gawler, working for the council and living in a flat behind where the Mitre 10 is now. He was at a low ebb after some personal turmoil when he met Robyn my mum. They were married in 1989 in the local Anglican church near the Willaston Hotel. This started a wonderful period for them both. Neither has much money but they were happy. They initially rented a house from the council that did not have “beach-front views”… It had dump-front views!! For a year, Dawn and I lived with mum and Peter in that house and it is a time that we all look back on with fondness. Because the rent in that house was so cheap and Peter could walk to work at the council yard next door, that gave mum and Peter the chance to save and eventually buy a block of land and build their house on Bright Street.

From very poor beginnings Peter and mum finally had a home of their own. Later in life you would see Peter walk around the garden on his property. He was never boastful, but you could tell that he was proud of that house and the fact that they had worked hard and earnt it.

Peter was an excellent husband… He always doted on mum…and was thinking of her right to the very end. To us he was easy to like with a shy and unassuming in nature, with a strong handshake, a sharp wit and a wonderful sense of humour. No big footprint…no fuss. In fact, I am quite sure he would feel awkward about all this fuss about him here today.

He played guitar and I personally shared some great moments with him, as he would show me the latest progression that he had learnt.

Later in life Mum and Pete would take lots of short holidays. Up to the Flinders Ranges…over to Peter’s sister Sue’s place, but their favourite area was along the Murray river...anywhere from here right up to the upper reaches. Once they spent a weekend in a house near the bridge over river at Kingston. Mum told me that Peter loved that house because from one vantage point you could see the Murray river….and an interesting example of roadworks.

Peter succumbed to emphysema and pneumonia one day after his 70th birthday, leaving behind a loving wife and family.

Peter was an organ donor and some lucky person has received the benefit of having Peter’s eyes. Peter’s ashes will be heading up the open road one last time in the near future, to be spread in the river that shares his name and was the centrepiece of so many of his holidays with mum. Let’s hope we strike some roadworks along the way.

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For Murray Booth: 'Muz was my wise counsel for just about everything in life', by Mal Booth - 2010

May 9, 2020

10 May 2010, Woronora, Sutherland, Sydney, NSW, Australia

Muz was born in Sydney, but really he grew up in Melbourne as a boy and young man. Most of his high school years were spent at a selective boys school in inner Melbourne and there he played water polo and did well at subjects like Mathematics.

He gained a university entry score, but decided not to continue with formal education, starting work with the AMP in Melbourne after matriculating. He soon started to pursue some of his passions: cars, his dog Tim and bikes. Murray bought a Mini Cooper and started enjoying driving with his close friend Richard. (We were not able to contact Richard before the funeral.) They made some long trips away together in that car including one to deepest Queensland. Soon he acquired a wonderful Newfoundland dog that he called Tim. People say that dogs resemble their owners and I think Tim was a reflection of Murray’s personality. Tim was always puppy-like and one enormous dog who could stand with his paws on my shoulders and lick me fair in the face. He was gentle like Muz but his slobber had all the qualities of Tarzan’s Grip and it made interesting sounds when it hit the walls of the house as he shook it off his snout. They were wonderful to see together and Tim would do anything Muz asked of him. Dad had retired by then, so Tim amused his house colleague while Muz was away at work by eating all of Dad’s pot plants, some of his trees and then made a decent start on the terra-cotta pots. Tim thought he was a person, so soon became Muz’s driving companion in the Mini Cooper. He always sat in the front passenger seat and if I was ever lucky enough to be taken for a drive, I had to squeeze into the small back bench seat around Tim who also got himself in first. Tim became accomplished at rallying on country roads and whilst he never quite made it as a navigator, he did once make it into the driver’s seat indicating to Muz, that he thought it was about his turn to drive.

It was in Melbourne that Muz began his passion for bicycles. He rode with the hard vets of the eastern suburbs in the days of leather soled shoes and road bikes with toe clips. There he learned his road bike skills and eventually saved enough for his first serious bike, having it made by Cecil Walker in Melbourne city. He still loved that bike and it hangs with pride of place in the fleet that fills his garage at home. (I conducted several guided tours of his bike collection during the wake for various family members who did not understand the depth of his passion for bikes.)

I guess what our family also remembers about Muz in Melbourne was his love of The Goodies and the latter Monty Python productions, particularly The Life of Brian and Fawlty Towers. He had a very funny sense of the ridiculous that his sister Mez and I always found very amusing. We will miss his cheeky grin and dimples terribly.

After a while Muz and Tim took a transfer to Tasmania to work in Hobart. He bought himself a home and seemed to enjoy life there for several years. Muz eventually sold up and moved back to the mainland, but Tim would not have handled another shift of climate and he retired to a farm in Tassie.

Muz worked for a time in the AMP in Sydney, but he really hated it and decided to chuck it all in and go to university to study to become an accountant. He enrolled in a Commerce degree at the University of Wollongong and it was there that he met and started dating his wife Jenny. That was over 17 years ago. Over his time in Sydney he continued his passion for cars and first acquired an awful looking Holden HSV Walkinshaw that Mum and Mez called the Spearmint Machine or Ralph because of the sound it made when it roared away. That was eventually replaced by an older Brock HSV The Black Beauty which he still owns. I think Jenny used to call it the brothel car and did not like to be taken anywhere in it. We have a lot in common! He raced both HSVs in club races on tracks around the Sydney region.

About 13 years ago, he married Jenny and I was honored to be their best man at the wedding. I remember the day well because I had never seen my brother so happy. I think that day would only have been matched by the birth of his son Ben and his daughter Alexis. He was completely devoted to his family as a husband and as a father. His family was really his number one passion in life. My sister Mez loved to watch Muz with his kids: their little hands in his big hands was such a sight to behold. Sometimes he just loved to sit and watch them play. I think his wife and children completed him as a person.

I now want to illustrate several of Muz’s traits and characteristics that I’ve not yet mentioned.

Most people who knew him would acknowledge his generosity, with his support and assistance for others and also with his empathy for others. He enjoyed helping many of his friends to purchase the right bike and gear for their needs, often referring to himself as “muz.con” because “.com” was taken. He had helped both his sister Mez and I with moving house several times, providing both heavy lifting and many silly observations to keep us all entertained during those long hard days. Recently, he and Mum helped me unpack a whole house after my move to Sydney in early 2009. He was really glad to see his sister happy (after marrying Phil recently) and me back in Sydney where we could do much more together.

He was gregarious, though he’d not have said that of himself. Whenever we were in bike shops anywhere, someone would say hello to him. And he could work a crowd socially, not as the centre of attention, but because of his genuine openness and warmth. It was his suggestion to buy a dog for Mum and Dad over 11 years ago despite my reservations at the time. It was probably the best gift we ever gave them at Xmas time. Of course, I later claimed all of the credit, but Mum knew all along it was Muz’s idea.

Muz was a very decent man and I think he admired those qualities in our father. He was forgiving, not judgmental, considerate and respectful of others, particularly his Dad, his father-in-law, and many of his friends from cycling. He had long admired two friends from school who became Olympians: John Fox in water polo and Shaun Panayi in diving.

Later in his life he remained passionate about his cars and bikes. He loved Top Gear and would often message or call me while watching the show. He had tickets to take his son Ben to the live show in Sydney. I think he enjoyed everything about cycling: the drama; the sound of a pack spinning together; the colour and scenery; the degree of difficulty; the devotion of the participants; the traditions and legends; the machinery; and the artistry of the bikes. He had learned much from the veterans of the road in Melbourne and in Sydney he rode and raced with the Randwick Botany Cycling Club. He followed that passion most recently by setting up his own business in bike insurance assessment. I think he relished the opportunity to work on something he enjoyed so much. I greatly admired his initiative and his independence.

Muz was my wise counsel for just about everything in life: jobs, houses, superannuation, bikes, and cars. I asked him before making decisions on all of these matters. For the last 10 years or so I think he rated me somewhere between a four year old child and a helpless village idiot. It was a family joke that he would never trust me with important tasks like our BBQs even though he hated doing it himself. 25 years ago I decided to do my first Ironman and it was very very early in the sport’s history in Australia. I sought his advice about getting a proper bike to race it on and he arranged for me to get one built to his specifications by Gordon Hill at Hillman in Melbourne. A year earlier, Gordon had built the frames for the Australian Olympic team in L.A. so when I found that out I really felt unworthy to ride it well enough. Only the best was good enough for his brother. I had given him the old bike after he helped unpack my house in 2009, but I will now restore that bike myself. He sourced or approved all of my racing bikes. I can even remember phoning Muz from a bike store in Honolulu in late 2008 before I purchased a new pair of bike shoes. Recently, he and I converted the bike I last raced in Hawaii into a single-speed bike for inner Sydney streets at Deus in Camperdown. He realised what that bike meant to me and again had to approve all of the changes. It got to the stage where Pierro at Deus would suggest something to me and before I could say anything he would tell me to just ask my brother about it and then get back to him the next day.

Muz was always there for me when I needed him as a friend and a brother. I loved him and I will miss him more than anyone can imagine.

Source: https://malbooth.com/2010/05/11/murray-stu...

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Matt and Alister.  Photo taken in the morning before we went out on the boat.

Matt and Alister. Photo taken in the morning before we went out on the boat.

For Neil Alister Turner: 'He always hated that name. Neil', by Matt Turner - 2018

May 8, 2020

10 September 2018, Perth, Western Australia

Speaker’s note: I am the eldest son of six siblings. My father had invited me to go on his annual fishing trip. He died of a heart attack on the small boat 30kms offshore. It was Fathers' day.

Neil Alister Turner,
He always hated that name. Neil.
Just last week at the Airport, when we were checking in the lady wanted to know who this Neil Turner was?
Dad had to bring out his drivers license and explain the whole story to prove who he was.
He turned to me and said “stupid name - every time I go to the Airport , this is always a fucked up show”

Alister Turner
That was the name of my Dad.
I was proud of my Dad.
Not because he was a brilliant surgeon who changed so many lives.
Not because he was a loving father who brought up a horde of kids in difficult circumstances.
… but because he was good man.

He wasn’t one to show too much emotion.
He hated big dramas and fuss.
He never got angry … well maybe a little bit when his racehorse ran badly.
But he was always there to help no matter what. He just wanted to fix things up and then get on with life.

Growing up he showed me what it was to work hard.
He would get up early, 6 days a week and work all day in a job that not many of us could do.
He never complained and always had time to help us with a costume or a some school project that was always due the next day.

My Dad loved books. He was always reading some crappy crime thriller. He always tried to palm them off to me; I must have 3 boxes of them in my shed.
He even wrote a few of books himself. I think one may be coming out pretty soon.
Seriously … Licorice Lunch. It is autobiographical.
Go out and buy it.
You are probably in it.

I reckon it will probably need one more last chapter added.

My Dad had a swagger about him, like he was almost arrogant.
He thought he was a great dancer. He was actually pretty good.
He thought all the women loved him. Maybe they did.
He said to me one day “I have been working out at the gym Matt. I am feeling really strong. But no matter how hard I train my muscles won’t get any bigger”
If you ever saw my Dad in shorts you would know he had legs like a crayfish.
He complained “My calf muscles just won’t grow”
I told him “ You are nearly 80 years old … what do want with huge calf muscles?”

I was lucky enough to get invited along on my Dad's annual fishing trip last couple of years.
The Happy Hookers.
These guys have been going up north for decades. During the day they go out on the boats fishing and at night the play cards and …. have a couple drinks.
Tits Turner, as they called him, was always amongst the winners of best fish at the end of the trip.
He seemed to be able to be pulling up Red Emperors when everyone else was getting catfish.

Recently he has not been as strong as he use to be and struggled to pull fish up from a great depth.
He would turn to me and say “Dan , here you better pull this one up”
As I hauled in a large Coral trout , I would be like ” Geez Dad my name is Matt, Dan is you other son ….the one who would be spewing over the side of the gunnel.”
Sorry Dan.

This year Dad was worried the fishing trip was going to be no good. That nobody would enjoy it.
He thought the accommodation would be crap. The boat would be too small. The weather would be bad and the fish wouldn't bite.
It didn't turn out like that.
The cabin was fantastic, the boat was best ever. The ocean glassed off at high tide each day and the fish were varied and abundant.
Pulling up fish and putting down cans of export with his mates out on the ocean.
I am only speaking for myself but I think that was a perfect way for my Dad to go out.
Dad if you listening “Your journey was a success, it was not a fucked up show…. you nailed it perfectly”

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Image of Royston Harold Taylor, several months before he died. Taken by N.A.J. Taylor c.2007.

Image of Royston Harold Taylor, several months before he died. Taken by N.A.J. Taylor c.2007.

For Roy Taylor: 'Despite his death we have not ‘lost’ Roy', by son Nico Taylor - 2007

May 4, 2020

28 December 2007, Bowral, NSW, 2007

So, this is Roy’s day. A day we’ll laugh. A day we’ll cry. A day we’ve come together to remember.

But we will not be alone in our thoughts.

Roy has bonds with people far beyond his family's reach. For instance, in the early 90s, Roy’s job meant he was responsible for the livelihoods of many thousands of men and women, and their families. I remember he would come home upset every day he had to let just one of them go. Despite his best efforts, obviously his sincerity did not go unnoticed. And so when he was terminated at the onset of his illness, his farewell party was strictly ‘standing room only’, and the chief of the workers’ union openly wept.

Yes, my father had a remarkable effect on people.

*

No one knows why, but Roy’s health noticeably declined in 1995. We learned much later that his brain was accommodating Dementia with Lewy Bodies—a neurodegenerative disease akin to suffering both Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s at the same time. Simply put, his brain was patiently ‘shutting down’. Over thirteen years Roy progressively lost: his movement, his speech, his rationality, his intellect, and his memory.

But there are many more things Roy never lost.

Roy never lost his sense of humour. I remember countless times over a beer when Dad would turn to me and whisper something he thought funny. I’d look at him to try and catch it, but he’d already be cheekily grinning—so much so, that his eyes would near close. At times I wouldn’t know what he had said, and more often than not, when I asked nor did he. But it didn’t matter. We just sat there and laughed together anyway, albeit for entirely different reasons.

Roy never lost his dignity. I remember years after Dad’s health had declined, a good friend of mine found a children’s maths book on the kitchen counter. Assuming it was mine he said, “Gee Nico, you are not that bad at maths are you!” Unfazed, Dad confessed that the book was his and kindly explained how mental exercises helped preserve the functioning of his brain. Perhaps my mate had learned about Dad’s illness the hard way, but how Dad handled it with such tenderness has stuck with me.

Roy never lost his personality. I remember when Dad mistakenly took some tablets from the medicine cabinet as well as his own. He fell into unconsciousness and didn’t recognise anyone. When I arrived at the emergency ward later that evening he bucked up and quite calmly said, “Oh hi, Nico, it's good to see you!!”. Moments later he whispered to me, “Do look after your Ma and the girls,” as if they were making a fuss over nothing. Overhearing the doctor ask Ma if he should be taken into private health care, Dad leapt up and said, “Shit! And how much will that cost me?”

Roy never lost interest. Dad, Liverpool beat Derby County two-one away from home in their Boxing Day match.

Roy never lost his kind-heartedness. I find it hard to imagine playing a football match without Dad coming to watch. He was ever-present. In the end Dad would invariably travel two or three hours to see me play—on buses, on trains, and on foot. It meant so much to me then, but now those memories of Dad perched on the touchline are among all I have left.

And most importantly to Roy, he never lost the love of his family. We were all there for Dad: through the tumbles, through the trips to the emergency ward, through the stuttering, and through the blank stares—but none more so than his wife, Jan. Whilst I am lucky to have had such a lovely man as my father, it is, in no small part, due to him finding such a strong and caring woman. Much love, Ma. And on behalf of your ‘Roystie’ once more, thank you.

*

Despite his death we have not ‘lost’ Roy; I’m sure we all hold many more treasured and tortured memories of our own. May it be some time before they fade.

N.A.J. Taylor
Bowral, NSW, Australia

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For Pasquale Manna: ‘A fig tree needs love too’, by Santo Manna - 2012

April 27, 2020

10 April 2012, Montreal, Quebec, Canada

This eulogy was delivered in Italian, English and French. We will post full English translation version first, and then the original trilingual version underneath.

spoken in Italian

When my father greeted people, whether by telephone or in person, he would happily cry out: “HELLLOOOO!”

Even in the final months of his life, when the pain and suffering from his cancer was at its peak, his approach to greeting people remained as joyous as always.

Why?

Because he did not want people to suffer on his account, despite the dire circumstances – on the contrary, he wanted them to be happy. He thought of the happiness of others first and foremost. This was the essence of his character.

This is a very sad day for all of us friends and family gathered here today, and for those who knew my dad and appreciated the man he was.

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It’s difficult for me to control my emotions. At the same time, there is no difficulty in describing my dad’s character and the way he lived his life day-by-day; it is a simple task.

It’s an honor and a privilege for me to be here before you, on behalf of my family, and to have the opportunity to share with you the story of an exemplary husband and father, who lived such a beautiful and extraordinary life – just as it was an honor, and a privilege, to be his only son.

My father lived his life according to a personal code of conduct. Pasquale’s code was unwritten, and he never directly revealed it, but one could readily discern it by observing his humble and straight-forward way of life.

This was his code:
• Satisfy the needs of others before mine.
• Life is about giving, not receiving.
• Help others without expecting rewards.
• Always behave justly.
• Honor and respect those weaker than us.
• Make peace, not war.
And, finally:
* A fig tree needs love too.

My father planted a fig tree in his garden, out behind our childhood home in Montreal.

Every year, with winter approaching, he would carefully bury it to preserve it, and when springtime came, he would dig it back up and give it new life.

He cared for that tree in the same manner, tireless and dedicated, that he cared for his family and friends.

He was born on March 27, 1932 in Santa Lucia del Mela, Sicily, third son of Santo Manna and Nunziata Giunta.

His parents, his sisters Franca and Venera, and his brothers Santo, Vincenzo, Salvatore, Mario, Antonino and Antonio Franco, all played an important role in forming my dad’s character, each contributing in their own way to the man he would become. By their side, he forged his sense of duty and devotion to family that he never relinquished, and which became a hallmark of his life.

To my father, his parents and siblings were the ideal family. And, in turn, they considered him the ideal son and brother.

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During a family vacation in Sicly in 2001, I had the privilege and pleasure of accompanying Pasquale as we visited the remote and primitive, and oh so lovely, mountain setting where he was born and raised. I observed him closely and noted the tender emotion he exhibited in revisiting, for the first time in so long, the place where he lived the first and formative years of his life.

It was in those mountains that he worked as a shepherd from when he was a young boy.

It was there that he learned from a tender age how to tend the soil and keep a garden.

Those moments, seared in our memories, we relived together during his final week in the palliative care ward. I observed the same emotion in him as I recounted the experience – his reaction: “We were poor, but happy.”

It was in Sicily that he met his love Giovanna, who fell for his beautiful blue eyes and gentle bearing. We celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary together in 2009.

My mother, my sisters Nancy and Anna, and I were constantly by his side at the Montreal General in those final days – and though it was a painful period, one of suffering for all of us, we took the opportunity to talk about Dad and what he meant to us. My Mom, speaking of his peaceful and calm character, and beginning to feel how much she would miss having him beside her.

She told me a story – of how she was strolling with him one morning, and they came across a friend who he greeted in his usual friendly way. Later, they came across another person, and he did the same. She asked, “Do you know him?” Dad replied: “No, but I’ll greet him anyway. As Jesus would have greeted even his enemies.”

To add to his other attributes, my father had a great sense of humor, which he displayed even when disciplining us. One expression in particular was front and center: “I’ll make you go to bed hot!”

in English

There is one person in particular in this audience who I knew would appreciate this immensely, you know who you are!

Over the last weeks, our family has received an outpouring of love and support from so many people, for which we are most grateful. It has been a wonderful source of strength and comfort in this most difficult time. We’ve had so many tell us what my dad meant to them, and it is a consistent theme – these are some of the words used to describe him:

- “He was there for us, when no one else was.”
- “He is the nicest man I know in this world.”
- “There will never be another man like him.” “There are no more men like him.”

- “He taught many men what it means to be a real man.”
- “He would give you the shirt off his back.”
- “Even the rocks respected him.” This one I must repeat in the Sicilian dialect: “Se fascia rispettare puru di petri.”

There are so many adjectives to describe his qualities. He was intelligent, wise, thoughtful, perceptive, sensitive, peaceful, calm, funny, devoted, caring and above all else kind.

Back in December, when he was hospitalized at the Montreal General Hospital for the first time, I had a brief and intense moment with him when he, in the most matter of fact tone, told me he wasn't afraid to die. This was startling, at first, but once I realized what it signified, it was a proud and happy moment.

What my dad was trying to tell me was that he had lived his life in such a manner as to have few, if any, regrets. When it came to how he lived his life, there was no unfinished business. That was a moment of great relief for me because I hated the thought that such a wonderful man would have regrets, would have feelings of not having achieved something during his life, feelings of having fallen short in some way. But it was quite the opposite.

In that moment, I sensed in him such a feeling of power, the awesome power of a man facing death and having absolutely no fear. Because in that moment I knew that my dad, for all those years of selflessness, was finally about to realize the true reward, not reward financially, not reward in material things or in professional accomplishments, but rather the reward of a man who leaves this earth knowing that he did his best, consistently and persistently, to make this world a better place for those around him. That is just reward for my dad, and provides great solace to those who loved him.

And what was the greatest reward he gave to us? His example. His words backed up by his actions. An example of how to live your life with integrity and dignity. It was, and remains, a powerful example.

As my niece Sabrina mentioned, were my dad sitting here with us today, he would be most uncomfortable hearing us talk about him like this, it was not what he was about. He would prefer that I would talk about you, the people who so enriched his life and gave him the opportunity to spread his love and friendship, and the love and friendship you returned to him so many times. Those of you who gave so much to the Manna family, from the time we first set foot here in Montreal in 1967. He would have preferred that I use this opportunity to thank you and to tell you how much he appreciated the love you showed him, and that’s what I’ll do.

Looking out, I see so many that had such a positive impact on our family.

Thank you to the Salvadore, Lipari, Giannone, Andaloro and Borgia families, for the opportunities you gave to my dad to love and be loved. Thank you to Antonia and Anna D’Amico, who he cared for deeply, and to Madelena DiPietro, who has been an important presence in the lives of my parents.

Thank you to the family of Fortunato and Amelia Amico, who provided us with the opportunity to feel like we were part of a big and happy family, on so many holidays and special occasions and in general. This was so special to us as an ocean separated us from my father’s family in Sicily. Comare Amelia, thank you for continuing to be a great and loyal friend to my mom and dad. Compare Nato, you are sadly missed.

And finally, a most special thanks to the family of Biaggina and Giuseppe Sciotto. You took our family in when we were most in need, out of the immense goodness of your hearts. It was a huge sacrifice, which my father never forgot, and we will never forget. To my godmother Biaggina, her husband Giuseppe and daughter Franca, we miss you terribly.

Now my father is reunited with Biaggina, Giuseppe, Nato and other family and friends who he loved so much, and whose loss he felt so deeply. They are all no doubt smiling down at us right now, over a nice plate of pasta, some bread, and some home-made red wine.

My dad leaves behind eight beautiful grandchildren, who he loved and adored. Sabby, Maddy, Joey, Mike, Connor, Katie, Ross and Alayna, I know you will remember your grandfather, and the values he stood for, always. Your grandfather lived the credo that it’s not what happens to you that matters most, but rather how you react to what happens to you. You often don’t have a choice regarding the events that shape your life, but you always have the choice of how to react to those events, and it is your reaction that defines you.

And in such reactions, and in the decisions, large and small, that you’ll make throughout your lives, it will never hurt to ask yourself, what would nonno do? The world has become complicated in so many ways, but the lessons of his life, born in a much simpler time, endure.

in French

The French language and culture occupied a central role in my parents’ lives.

They lived in Vevey, in Switzerland, during the early years of their marriage, and my sisters Anna and Nancy were born there. In 1967, they migrated to Montreal and settled in the working-class enclave of Ville Emard, where my father quickly began to forge relationships with his French-Canadian neighbors and co-workers.

The communities of South West Montreal, of Ville Emard, St-Henri, Point St Charles and Ville Lasalle, had large French-Canadian / Quebecois communities. Many among its populace were also poor but happy, just like my Dad’s family, and he noticed those attributes in them.

I’d like to mention my Dad’s closest neighbors, who I know appreciated my father and the friendship he provided – Carole and Mario, Luvana and Joe, and Karim and Ibrahim and their families. I know that you admired the way my Dad lived his life, his gentle and sweet character, and we appreciate the friendship that you bestowed upon him.

We thank the doctors and nurses who attended to and supported my father – notably at the Montreal General Hospital. Thank you Doctors Tanguay, Betay and Kovacs.

Finally, we are so very grateful to the men and women of the Palliative Care Unit at the Montreal General. There are no words to express the depth of our appreciation for the kindness and compassion that you showed towards my father in his time of need. We were deeply touched and will never forget it. I call out in particular Drs. Lawlor and Chaput, and nurses Johanne, Andree, Josette, Mary Jane, Gladys, Thulane, Annie, Marie-Lin, Rosemary, Pasqua and Diane.

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My father also greatly appreciated your efforts, even though in the end he was unable to express it. He nonetheless was able to do so, in one unforgettable moment, when he extended his hand to a nurse and whispered a thank you to her, despite his state of immense suffering and exhaustion.

Finally, our thoughts and prayers are with the families of my father’s fellow patients in the palliative ward, with whom we built a friendship upon the most difficult experience that we were sharing. We passed many nights together, and their friendship gave us courage in facing such hardship.

My dad always thought of others, and it’s now our turn to do the same. Our thoughts are with the families of Marisol Argueillo, age 39; Carolina Falcone, age 49; Michel Loiselle, age 51; Viviane Naud, age 61; and Mira Skrlj, age 66.

delivered in English

I am grateful for the Manna name that my father gave to me and my family, because it was his, and his father’s before him, and they carried it well. Because of them and others, the name symbolizes integrity, strength of character, and selflessness. These are the characteristics of my father, and by expressing them every day of his 80 years, he gave us all the privilege and honor of being associated with that name.

It’s time to say our last goodbye to my father, knowing that his memory will always be with us as we go about our lives.

We remember always the goodwill he expressed to all he encountered during the course of his life, whether he was meeting them for the first time or had known them for many years, and how they benefited from his presence. And we, his family, who have had the privilege of basking in his presence and benefitting from his lessons for all that time that we stood by his side.

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Your name was Pasquale Manna. You were my father and father to my sisters. You were husband to our mother, and grandfather to our children. Thank you for all that you have done for us. Men like you, there are no more. We love you very much, and we will never forget you.

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For Louis Waller: "A life devoted to justice, kindness, humility", Speech at Shloshim, by Ian Waller - 2019

April 19, 2020



7 November 2019, St Kilda Hebrew Congregation, Melbourne, Australia

Speaking at a dinner in honor of my father in 2000, Justice Michael Kirby then a High Court judge said:

In a life, such as Louis Waller has lived, it is not enough to begin with his academic laurels. To understand him, and the wellsprings of his humanity, it is essential to journey back to Siedlce in Poland.


My father, Peter Louis Waller,

הריני כפרת משכבו פנחס יהודה בן יעקב דב הכהן

was born Pinchas Leib Waligora in Siedlce Poland on 9th February 1935.

His birth was registered by his father the following day, so 10th February became his official birthday.

Like many other cities in Europe, Siedlce (which is situated about 100 km east of Warsaw) had a significant Jewish population. In 1935 Jews constituted some 40% of the city's population of 30,000.

Of course, all that changed forever during the Second World War. By the end of 1942, almost every member of its Jewish population had been murdered in Treblinka.

That was the fate that befell almost all of my father’s Siedlce family.

Somehow, sensing the impending doom, Dad’s parents managed to leave Poland with their 3 year old son in 1938 and made their way by sea to Melbourne.

Dad’s parents had both been raised in orthodox hassidic homes. Indeed, the sandek at Dad’s bris in 1935 (given the honor of holding Dad while he was circumcised) was the Biale Rebbe. There were also strong family connections on my grandmother’s side to the Alexander Rebbe.

Dad’s father had received a cheder and yeshiva education in Siedlce, but at the age of 18 he was conscripted into the Polish army for 4 years, and thereafter became a fervent supporter of the Linke Poale Zion, the left wing Socialist Zionist movement, and the life-style associated with it. So, by the time they arrived in Melbourne in 1938 with Dad then aged 3, my grandparents’ religious observance had diminished.

But my grandparents had decided that their son would have a Jewish education and a Jewish life. They understood that while in Siedlce, yiddishkeit was all-pervasive whatever one’s personal practice, in Melbourne they had to work at being Jewish especially if they wanted to ensure that Dad would remain so.

So, in 1940, aged 5, Dad became a pupil at the St Kilda Hebrew School. And from 1942 (while his father was conscripted, this time as a “friendly alien” in the Sixth Employment Company of the Australian Army) he began walking with his mother every Shabbat morning to St Kilda Synagogue from their rented cottage in Argyle Street. From the age of 9, Dad attended services every Friday evening as well.

After the Second World War my grandfather became a regular congregant here too, and he remained so until he died in 1981.

It is therefore particularly appropriate that this Shloshim service, marking 30 days since my father left this world, is being held here at St Kilda Synagogue.

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* * *

Rabbi Jacob Danglow, who led this Synagogue for more than half a century between 1905 and 1957, had a powerful impact on my grandparents and on Dad.

In a speech he delivered in 1980 on the 100th anniversary of Rabbi Danglow’s birth, Dad said that when Rabbi Danglow stood in the pulpit – this pulpit – delivering his sermons he could, as a child, imagine no other occupant.

This is how Dad described Rabbi Danglow in that speech:

...pre-eminent always...- dark; a sun-tanned face, an iron-grey moustache, black canonicals, relieved a little by the bands of white at his throat, and draped in a silk tallit with blue stripes, a tiny replica of which I and every boy in the synagogue wore in those days...

Although he could imagine no one else occupying the pulpit, as an 8 year old attending Sunday school here, on one occasion Dad was directed to go into the shule ascend the pulpit and read from the Singers Prayer Book until he was told to stop. A microphone was being installed for some occasion and the electrician wanted to test its effectiveness. Dad said:

I mounted the steps with trepidation. The view I had was breathtaking, but I was also seized by a terrible fear. What if Rabbi Danglow should at that moment come through the door and see me? He would surely thunder “Get out!” and banish me forever from the shule.

Dad celebrated his barmitzvah in this shule on 21st February 1948 (parshat Tetzaveh). He remembers standing in the Warden’s box as Rabbi Danglow implored him to conduct himself so as to be a source of pride to his parents, his family and his school.

Exactly 3 months later, on 21st May 1948, David Ben Gurion proclaimed the declaration formally establishing the State of Israel.

Dad recalls attending a special thanksgiving service in this shule after the establishment of Medinat Yisrael.

He said:

Rabbi Danglow delivered a sermon which I do remember — it was on the theme that Israel should be a Jewish state. And when the choir, which throughout the war had sung the National Anthem to end the service, concluded instead with Hatikvah, I knew that the world had changed. Whatever happened, my life and the lives of my contemporaries would thereafter in large degree, be bound up with the life and future of Israel.


Of course, Dad’s words were prescient.

Because it would be in Israel where he would fall in love with Mum in the summer of 1957.

And it would be in Israel where my brother Anthony and sister Elly would make their homes, and together with Michal and Michael would raise their families.

And it would be in Israel where we would celebrate Mum and Dad’s 60th wedding anniversary - returning to the place where it all began, but this time surrounded by their 35 children, grandchildren and great grandchildren.

And it will be in Israel tomorrow that a Shloshim service will take place in Modi’in arranged by Anthony and Elly, at which a siyum mishnayot will be conducted marking the special learning that has been undertaken in Dad’s memory during the last 30 days.
* * *

Dad continued to attend this Synagogue regularly until he sailed to England to commence post graduate study at Oxford in 1956. And in later years Dad continued to attend here on those days when he could drive to shule.

So, he would return to the synagogue of his youth to celebrate the triumph of Purim and to commemorate the tragedy of Tisha B’Av and on other occasions as well.

As a boy, Dad also continued his formal Jewish education at its Hebrew school, attending classes on Shabbat mornings after shule, on Sunday mornings and on Monday, Tuesday and Thursday afternoons.

Dad’s life changed completely when, in March 1950, Reverend Bert Wreschner, then assistant minister of STKHC and Headmaster of the Hebrew School, appointed Dad, then aged 15, as a teacher in the Hebrew School responsible for a class of 10 and 11 year old boys and girls.

Dad said that that experience was “to light the fires of enthusiasm for Jewish learning and for teaching” in his impressionable mind.

In his matriculation exams in 1951 Dad received first class honours in Hebrew.

And in each year of his law degree, Dad continued his studies in Biblical Hebrew and Aramaic at Melbourne University in the Department of Semitic Studies under the renowned Professor Maurice David Goldman.

* * *

While Dad received his formal Jewish education at St Kilda Hebrew School, his informal Jewish education was probably more influential.

Of course, it came primarily from his home, from his mother and from his father who as a young boy had been a Talmudic prodigy and was well versed in Jewish law and practice.

Dad recalls being taught by his father to read Rashi script and, together with him, studying the biblical commentaries on the weekly Torah portion. His father also taught him how to read and write Yiddish which had been Dad’s mamaloshen (his mother tongue) from the time he could speak.

Dad’s informal Jewish education also came from 2 other principal sources.

From the age of 11 until he was 14, Dad attended an informal gathering called Oyneg Shabbos organised and led by a young man named Eli Loebenstein. Meetings were held on Shabbat afternoons in the homes of some of the participants where there were stories, games, songs – as well as cake and lemonade. Eli spoke to them about the forthcoming Jewish holidays, or about an episode in the Torah reading of the week, or about tallis and tefillin, or about all manner of matters Jewish and made sure that every person in the group was regarded as an important participant.

Dad later wrote:

I didn't see Eli often after the end of Oyneg Shabbos. I remember him today with undiminished fondness, and with deep respect. What he did for me, and my Oyneg Shabbos companions, he did because he wanted to ensure that we Melbourne Jewish kids understood how wonderful was our inheritance, and how precious was each Shabbos we enjoyed.

The second major informal influence on Dad was Bnei Akiva. Between the ages of 12 and 21, a large part of Dad’s life was lived in this Religious Zionist youth movement.

As a madrich or youth leader Dad welcomed the opportunities for autonomy and independence.

And his own madrichim left indelible impressions on him, particularly Arnold Bloch ע׳ה who showed Dad that Jewish learning and secular studies not only could, but should, merit equal attention and that the insights from one could illuminate the other.

The seeds of Jewish life and learning that were planted in Dad as a boy took root and flourished, imbuing his life with a spiritual dimension that permeated everything he did thereafter.

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Dad returned to Melbourne in 1959 having obtained a BCL with first class honours from Oxford, but more importantly having met and married Mum.

Their first home was a flat in Glenhuntly Road Elwood. So from about June 1959 until October 1962 Dad davened at Elwood TTC. Dad especially enjoyed the davening of Chazan Adler who he described as “a superb ba'al tefila, and free of prima-donnaish characteristics”.

In 1962, Mum and Dad moved to Hartley Ave, Caulfield and Dad began a life-long association with another, very different, sort of synagogue.

In fact, in name not a synagogue or Bet Knesset, but a Bet Midrash (a house of learning) - the Caulfield Beth HaMedrash, colloquially known to many as Katanga.

Interestingly, Dad rarely if ever used that appellation, referring to it simply as “the Beis Medrash”.

It had no ornate sanctuary, no imposing dome, no Anglo-Jewish heritage, indeed no official rabbi.

Instead it comprised devout and learned Holocaust survivors whose mother tongue was Yiddish. Dad enjoyed its simplicity and authenticity and forged close personal relationships with generations of its mitpallelim.

For at least the last 20 years Dad would speak on Shabbat afternoons twice a year - on Parshat Mishpatim and Parshat Shoftim whose Torah readings dealt with legal matters.

Dad, the public teacher of law, enjoyed preparing and delivering these intimate lectures in which he would skilfully weave his own experiences, insights and reflections into the biblical text.

He delivered his last such talk just 2 months ago.

Dad’s final appearance at his beloved Beis Medrash was on Rosh Hashana the Jewish New Year - less than 6 weeks ago.

His last public pronouncement that day was his recitation of the Birkat Kohanim – the Priestly Blessing – which he always did with pride and more importantly be’ahava with love.

The memory of that day will stay with me forever.

Dad’s affiliation with, and attraction to, these very different places of worship – to St Kilda Hebrew Congregation and to the Caulfield Beth HaMedrash - speaks to his openness to different forms of Orthodox Jewish expression.

Dad understood the need for fidelity to tradition, to halacha, but accepted that there were “shivim panim letorah” many ways of expressing that connection.

That openness to different outlooks and approaches characterized Dad’s involvement with a vast range of Jewish organisations during his life - in education, in welfare, and in communal life.

With Bert Wreschner, Dad assisted the newly established Moriah College which we attended in the 1960’s. Later, when we moved to Mount Scopus College, Dad chaired its Education Committee.

He helped establish programs to enhance tertiary Jewish studies at both Monash University and the University of Melbourne.

Dad served as Chairman of the Advisory Committee of the Australian Centre for Jewish Civilisation at Monash University which is dedicated to teaching about the evolution of Jewish civilisation and its contribution to the world.
He also served on the Board of Governors of the Hebrew University of Jerusalem and of Tel Aviv University. And he was instrumental in the development of the Hillel Foundation in Victoria promoting Jewish life on university campuses and the establishment of Australian Academics for Peace in the Middle East.
Together with Mum he was actively involved with Bnai Brith for decades and more recently also with Courage to Care, the Makor Library and Jewish Care.

Throughout his life, Dad’s love of learning never ceased, his study overflowing with books, especially of Jewish law and lore (L.O.R.E. as Dad would say) spilling into bookshelves in every room of their home.
In recent years Dad rekindled his love of Yiddish, topping the State in VCE Yiddish and attending weekly conversation classes.
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In a recently published book by Susan Bartie on Pioneering Australian Legal Scholars, she writes that as a law teacher, together with Peter Brett, Dad’s goal was not simply to produce competent legal practitioners, but to foster a sense of moral awareness in their students and to impress upon them the onerous moral responsibilities lawyers faced.

In teaching criminal law Dad would introduce his first lecture with Rv Dudley & Stevens the famous case involving human cannibalism on the high seas to illustrate the tension that exists between law and morality. That lesson and the issues it raised have remained with Dad’s students throughout their lives.

And as a pioneering law reformer, much of Dad’s work concerned the beginning and the end of life. Dad had to grapple with the most difficult legal, social and ethical dilemmas thrown up by scientific and medical advances in IVF and assisted reproduction technology.

A feature article in the Age in June 1982 stated:
The professor’s respect for human life is informed by his religious belief.
It quoted Dad as saying : “I am Jewish; it is part of the fabric of my life”.

And so it was.

In everything that he was, and in everything that he did.

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In his study of Biblical Hebrew at University, and in the years since, Dad read the famous verse in the Book of Michah, where the Prophet says:

He has told you, O man, what is good, and what the Lord demands of you;
Only that you do justice,
love kindness,
and walk Humbly with your God.

הִגִּ֥יד לְךָ֛ אָדָ֖ם מַה־טּ֑וֹב וּמָה ה דּוֹרֵ֣שׁ מִמְּךָ֗ כִּ֣י אִם־עֲשׂ֚וֹת מִשְׁפָּט֙ וְאַ֣הֲבַת חֶ֔סֶד וְהַצְנֵ֥עַ לֶ֖כֶת עִם־אֱלֹקיךָ:

That simple yet profound verse encapsulates so beautifully Dad’s life.

A life devoted to justice – to teaching generations of lawyers, judges and legislators that the law must be an instrument of justice, to reforming the law so that it achieved that end, and to living a life of personal integrity

A life infused with kindness – in his lifelong relationships and in his daily interactions.

And – despite his enormous achievements - a life characterized by humility.

To have been so close to someone who embodied these qualities is a privilege that Adina and I and our children and our grandchildren will always cherish.

And a constant reminder to us of what we should strive to be.

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In the speech he gave about Rabbi Danglow, Dad recalls a final memory.

It is Yom Kippur. The day of Atonement.
The shule is full, and almost still, darkened by approaching night.
It is Neilah, the final service on this holiest of holy days.
On the bimah, enveloped in white kittel and woollen tallit stands the rabbi.

In Dad’s description:

The limpid words of the liturgical poem capture the scene and fix the atmosphere:

Hayom yifneh,
hashemesh yavo v’yifneh
Navo’ah sh’arecha

The day is passing,
The sun is low, the day is growing late.
O – let us come into Thy gates at last.

So let me conclude with my final memory of my father.

It is Yom Kippur. The Day of Atonement.
Night has fallen.
It is Kol Nidrei, the first service on this holiest of holy days.
But we are not in shule.
We are gathered around Dad’s hospital bed.
Enveloped in white kittel and woollen tallit, we sing the haunting melodies that have resonated with our people for centuries and which Dad loved.
Then, we begin to recite our silent devotion.
As we symbolically beat our chests in confession - we see that Dad’s chest is now still.

The day has now passed,
the sun has now set
And Dad’s soul is about to enter Thy gates at last.

Yehi zichro baruch

May his memory be a blessing

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For John F Kennedy Jr and Carolyn Bessette: 'There was in him a great promise of things to come', by Edward Kennedy - 1999

April 2, 2020

23 July 1999, Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception, Washington DC, USA

Thank you, President and Mrs. Clinton and Chelsea, for being here today. You’ve shown extraordinary kindness through the course of this week.

Once, when they asked John what he would do if he went into politics and was elected president, he said, “I guess the first thing is call up Uncle Teddy and gloat.” I loved that. It was so like his father.

From the first day of his life, John seemed to belong not only to our family, but to the American family. The whole world knew his name before he did. A famous photograph showed John racing across the lawn as his father landed in the White House helicopter and swept up John in his arms. When my brother saw that photo, he exclaimed, “Every mother in the United States is saying, ‘Isn’t it wonderful to see that love between a son and his father, the way that John races to be with his father.’ Little do they know, that son would have raced right by his father to get to that helicopter.”

But John was so much more than those long ago images emblazoned in our minds. He was a boy who grew into a man with a zest for life and a love of adventure. He was a pied piper who brought us all along. He was blessed with a father and mother who never thought anything mattered more than their children.

When they left the White House, Jackie’s soft and gentle voice and unbreakable strength of spirit guided him surely and securely to the future. He had a legacy, and he learned to treasure it. He was part of a legend, and he learned to live with it. Above all, Jackie gave him a place to be himself, to grow up, to laugh and cry, to dream and strive on his own.

John learned that lesson well. He had amazing grace. He accepted who he was, but he cared more about what he could and should become. He saw things that could be lost in the glare of the spotlight. And he could laugh at the absurdity of too much pomp and circumstance.

He loved to travel across the city by subway, bicycle and roller blade. He lived as if he were unrecognizable, although he was known by everyone he encountered. He always introduced himself, rather than take anything for granted. He drove his own car and flew his own plane, which is how he wanted it. He was the king of his domain.

He thought politics should be an integral part of our popular culture, and that popular culture should be an integral part of politics. He transformed that belief into the creation of “George.” John shaped and honed a fresh, often irreverent journal. His new political magazine attracted a new generation, many of whom had never read about politics before.

John also brought to “George” a wit that was quick and sure. The premier issue of “George” caused a stir with a cover photograph of Cindy Crawford dressed as George Washington with a bare belly button. The “Reliable Source” in The Washington Post printed a mock cover of “George” showing not Cindy Crawford, but me dressed as George Washington, with my belly button exposed. I suggested to John that perhaps I should have been the model for the first cover of his magazine. Without missing a beat, John told me that he stood by his original editorial decision.

John brought this same playful wit to other aspects of his life. He campaigned for me during my 1994 election and always caused a stir when he arrived in Massachusetts. Before one of his trips to Boston, John told the campaign he was bringing along a companion, but would need only one hotel room. Interested, but discreet, a senior campaign worker picked John up at the airport and prepared to handle any media barrage that might accompany John’s arrival with his mystery companion. John landed with the companion all right – an enormous German shepherd dog named Sam he had just rescued from the pound.

He loved to talk about the expression on the campaign worker’s face and the reaction of the clerk at the Charles Hotel when John and Sam checked in. I think now not only of these wonderful adventures, but of the kind of person John was. He was the son who quietly gave extraordinary time and ideas to the Institute of Politics at Harvard that bears his father’s name. He brought to the institute his distinctive insight that politics could have a broader appeal, that it was not just about elections, but about the larger forces that shape our whole society.

John was also the son who was once protected by his mother. He went on to become her pride – and then her protector in her final days. He was the Kennedy who loved us all, but who especially cherished his sister Caroline, celebrated her brilliance, and took strength and joy from their lifelong mutual admiration society.And for a thousand days, he was a husband who adored the wife who became his perfect soul mate. John’s father taught us all to reach for the moon and the stars. John did that in all he did – and he found his shining star when he married Carolyn Bessette.

How often our family will think of the two of them, cuddling affectionately on a boat, surrounded by family – aunts, uncles, Caroline and Ed and their children, Rose, Tatiana, and Jack, Kennedy cousins, Radziwill cousins, Shriver cousins, Smith cousins, Lawford cousins – as we sailed Nantucket Sound. Then we would come home, and before dinner, on the lawn where his father had played, John would lead a spirited game of touch football. And his beautiful young wife, the new pride of the Kennedys, would cheer for John’s team and delight her nieces and nephews with her somersaults.

We loved Carolyn. She and her sister Lauren were young extraordinary women of high accomplishment – and their own limitless possibilities. We mourn their loss and honor their lives. The Bessette and Freeman families will always be part of ours.

John was a serious man who brightened our lives with his smile and his grace. He was a son of privilege who founded a program called Reaching Up to train better caregivers for the mentally disabled. He joined Wall Street executives on the Robin Hood Foundation to help the city’s impoverished children. And he did it all so quietly, without ever calling attention to himself. John was one of Jackie’s two miracles. He was still becoming the person he would be, and doing it by the beat of his own drummer. He had only just begun. There was in him a great promise of things to come.

The Irish ambassador recited a poem to John’s father and mother soon after John was born. I can hear it again now, at this different and difficult moment:

“We wish to the new child,
A heart that can be beguiled,
By a flower,
That the wind lifts,
As it passes.
If the storms break for him,
May the trees shake for him,
Their blossoms down.
In the night that he is troubled,
May a friend wake for him,
So that his time be doubled,
And at the end of all loving and love
May the Man above,
Give him a crown.”

We thank the millions who have rained blossoms down on John’s memory. He and his bride have gone to be with his mother and father, where there will never be an end to love. He was lost on that troubled night, but we will always wake for him, so that his time, which was not doubled, but cut in half, will live forever in our memory, and in our beguiled and broken hearts. We dared to think, in that other Irish phrase, that this John Kennedy would live to comb gray hair, with his beloved Carolyn by his side. But like his father, he had every gift but length of years. We who have loved him from the day he was born, and watched the remarkable man he became, now bid him farewell.

God bless you, John and Carolyn. We love you and we always will.

Source: http://edition.cnn.com/US/9907/23/kennedy....

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For Edward Kennedy: 'We weep because we loved this kind and tender hero', by Barack Obama - 2009

April 2, 2020

29 August 2009, Our Lady of Perpetual Help Basilica, Boston, Massachusetts, USA

Mrs. Kennedy, Kara, Edward, Patrick, Curran, Caroline, members of the Kennedy family, distinguished guests, and fellow citizens:

Today we say goodbye to the youngest child of Rose and Joseph Kennedy. The world will long remember their son Edward as the heir to a weighty legacy; a champion for those who had none; the soul of the Democratic Party; and the lion of the U.S. Senate – a man whose name graces nearly one thousand laws, and who penned more than three hundred himself.

But those of us who loved him, and ache with his passing, know Ted Kennedy by the other titles he held: Father. Brother. Husband. Uncle Teddy, or as he was often known to his younger nieces and nephews, “The Grand Fromage,” or “The Big Cheese.” I, like so many others in the city where he worked for nearly half a century, knew him as a colleague, a mentor, and above all, a friend.

Ted Kennedy was the baby of the family who became its patriarch; the restless dreamer who became its rock. He was the sunny, joyful child, who bore the brunt of his brothers’ teasing, but learned quickly how to brush it off. When they tossed him off a boat because he didn’t know what a jib was, six-year-old Teddy got back in and learned to sail. When a photographer asked the newly elected Bobby to step back at a press conference because he was casting a shadow on his younger brother, Teddy quipped, “It’ll be the same in Washington.”

This spirit of resilience and good humor would see Ted Kennedy through more pain and tragedy than most of us will ever know. He lost two siblings by the age of sixteen. He saw two more taken violently from the country that loved them. He said goodbye to his beloved sister, Eunice, in the final days of his own life. He narrowly survived a plane crash, watched two children struggle with cancer, buried three nephews, and experienced personal failings and setbacks in the most public way possible.

It is a string of events that would have broken a lesser man. And it would have been easy for Teddy to let himself become bitter and hardened; to surrender to self-pity and regret; to retreat from public life and live out his years in peaceful quiet. No one would have blamed him for that.

But that was not Ted Kennedy. As he told us, “(I)individual faults and frailties are no excuse to give in” and no exemption from the common obligation to give of ourselves.” Indeed, Ted was the “Happy Warrior” that the poet William Wordsworth spoke of when he wrote:

As tempted more; more able to endure,
As more exposed to suffering and distress;
Thence, also, more alive to tenderness.

Through his own suffering, Ted Kennedy became more alive to the plight and suffering of others; the sick child who could not see a doctor; the young soldier sent to battle without armor; the citizen denied her rights because of what she looks like or who she loves or where she comes from. The landmark laws that he championed – the Civil Rights Act, the Americans with Disabilities Act, immigration reform, children’s health care, the Family and Medical Leave Act all have a running thread.

Ted Kennedy’s life’s work was not to champion those with wealth or power or special connections. It was to give a voice to those who were not heard; to add a rung to the ladder of opportunity; to make real the dream of our founding. He was given the gift of time that his brothers were not, and he used that gift to touch as many lives and right as many wrongs as the years would allow.

We can still hear his voice bellowing through the Senate chamber, face reddened, fist pounding the podium, a veritable force of nature, in support of health care or workers’ rights or civil rights. And yet, while his causes became deeply personal, his disagreements never did.

While he was seen by his fiercest critics as a partisan lightning rod, that is not the prism through which Ted Kennedy saw the world, nor was it the prism through which his colleagues saw him. He was a product of an age when the joy and nobility of politics prevented differences of party and philosophy from becoming barriers to cooperation and mutual respect at a time when adversaries still saw each other as patriots.
And that’s how Ted Kennedy became the greatest legislator of our time. He did it by hewing to principle, but also by seeking compromise and common cause, not through deal-making and horse-trading alone, but through friendship, and kindness, and humor.

There was the time he courted Orrin Hatch’s support for the Children’s Health Insurance Program by having his chief of staff serenade the senator with a song Orrin had written himself; the time he delivered shamrock cookies on a china plate to sweeten up a crusty Republican colleague; and the famous story of how he won the support of a Texas committee chairman on an immigration bill.

Teddy walked into a meeting with a plain manila envelope, and showed only the chairman that it was filled with the Texan’s favorite cigars. When the negotiations were going well, he would inch the envelope closer to the chairman. When they weren’t, he would pull it back. Before long, the deal was done.

It was only a few years ago, on St. Patrick’s Day, when Teddy buttonholed me on the floor of the Senate for my support on a certain piece of legislation that was coming up for vote. I gave him my pledge, but expressed my skepticism that it would pass. But when the roll call was over, the bill garnered the votes it needed, and then some. I looked at Teddy with astonishment and asked how he had pulled it off. He just patted me on the back, and said “Luck of the Irish!”

Of course, luck had little to do with Ted Kennedy’s legislative success, and he knew that. A few years ago, his father-in-law told him that he and Daniel Webster just might be the two greatest senators of all time. Without missing a beat, Teddy replied, “What did Webster do?”

But though it is Ted Kennedy’s historic body of achievements we will remember, it is his giving heart that we will miss. It was the friend and colleague who was always the first to pick up the phone and say, “I’m sorry for your loss,” or “I hope you feel better,” or “What can I do to help?” It was the boss who was so adored by his staff that over five hundred spanning five decades showed up for his 75th birthday party. It was the man who sent birthday wishes and thank you notes and even his own paintings to so many who never imagined that a U.S. Senator would take the time to think about someone like them. I have one of those paintings in my private study – a Cape Cod seascape that was a gift to a freshman legislator who happened to admire it when Ted Kennedy welcomed him into his office the first week he arrived in Washington; by the way, that’s my second favorite gift from Teddy and Vicki after our dog Bo. And it seems like everyone has one of those stories – the ones that often start with “You wouldn’t believe who called me today.”

Ted Kennedy was the father who looked after not only his own three children, but John’s and Bobby’s as well. He took them camping and taught them to sail. He laughed and danced with them at birthdays and weddings; cried and mourned with them through hardship and tragedy; and passed on that same sense of service and selflessness that his parents had instilled in him. Shortly after Ted walked Caroline down the aisle and gave her away at the altar, he received a note from Jackie that read, “On you the carefree youngest brother fell a burden a hero would have begged to be spared. We are all going to make it because you were always there with your love.”

Not only did the Kennedy family make it because of Ted’s love – he made it because of theirs; and especially because of the love and the life he found in Vicki. After so much loss and so much sorrow, it could not have been easy for Ted Kennedy to risk his heart again. That he did is a testament to how deeply he loved this remarkable woman from Louisiana. And she didn’t just love him back. As Ted would often acknowledge, Vicki saved him. She gave him strength and purpose; joy and friendship; and stood by him always, especially in those last, hardest days.

We cannot know for certain how long we have here. We cannot foresee the trials or misfortunes that will test us along the way. We cannot know God’s plan for us.

What we can do is to live out our lives as best we can with purpose, and love, and joy. We can use each day to show those who are closest to us how much we care about them, and treat others with the kindness and respect that we wish for ourselves. We can learn from our mistakes and grow from our failures. And we can strive at all costs to make a better world, so that someday, if we are blessed with the chance to look back on our time here, we can know that we spent it well; that we made a difference; that our fleeting presence had a lasting impact on the lives of other human beings.

This is how Ted Kennedy lived. This is his legacy. He once said of his brother Bobby that he need not be idealized or enlarged in death beyond what he was in life, and I imagine he would say the same about himself. The greatest expectations were placed upon Ted Kennedy’s shoulders because of who he was, but he surpassed them all because of who he became. We do not weep for him today because of the prestige attached to his name or his office. We weep because we loved this kind and tender hero who persevered through pain and tragedy – not for the sake of ambition or vanity; not for wealth or power; but only for the people and the country he loved.

In the days after September 11th, Teddy made it a point to personally call each one of the 177 families of this state who lost a loved one in the attack. But he didn’t stop there. He kept calling and checking up on them. He fought through red tape to get them assistance and grief counseling. He invited them sailing, played with their children, and would write each family a letter whenever the anniversary of that terrible day came along. To one widow, he wrote the following:

“As you know so well, the passage of time never really heals the tragic memory of such a great loss, but we carry on, because we have to, because our loved one would want us to, and because there is still light to guide us in the world from the love they gave us.”

We carry on.

Ted Kennedy has gone home now, guided by his faith and by the light of those he has loved and lost. At last he is with them once more, leaving those of us who grieve his passing with the memories he gave, the good he did, the dream he kept alive, and a single, enduring image – the image of a man on a boat; white mane tousled; smiling broadly as he sails into the wind, ready for what storms may come, carrying on toward some new and wondrous place just beyond the horizon. May God Bless Ted Kennedy, and may he rest in eternal peace.

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For the Columbia astronauts: 'The final days of their own lives were spent looking down upon this Earth', by George W. Bush - 2003

April 2, 2020

4 February 2003, National Aeronautics and Space Administration’s (NASA) Lyndon B. Johnson Space Center in Houston, Texas, USA

The crew that died in the STS-107 Space Shuttle Columbia were –David M. Brown, Rick D. Husband, Laurel B. Clark, Kalpana Chawla, Michael P. Anderson, William C. McCool and Ilan Ramon.

Their mission was almost complete, and we lost them so close to home. The men and women of the Columbia had journeyed more than 6 million miles and were minutes away from arrival and reunion. The loss was sudden and terrible, and for their families, the grief is heavy. Our nation shares in your sorrow and in your pride. And today we remember not only one moment of tragedy, but seven lives of great purpose and achievement.

To leave behind Earth and air and gravity is an ancient dream of humanity. For these seven, it was a dream fulfilled. Each of these astronauts had the daring and discipline required of their calling. Each of them knew that great endeavors are inseparable from great risks. And each of them accepted those risks willingly, even joyfully, in the cause of discovery.

Rick Husband was a boy of four when he first thought of being an astronaut. As a man, and having become an astronaut, he found it was even more important to love his family and serve his Lord. One of Rick’s favorite hymns was, “How Great Thou Art,” which offers these words of praise: “I see the stars. I hear the mighty thunder. Thy power throughout the universe displayed.”

David Brown was first drawn to the stars as a little boy with a telescope in his back yard. He admired astronauts, but, as he said, “I thought they were movie stars. I thought I was kind of a normal kid.” David grew up to be a physician, an aviator who could land on the deck of a carrier in the middle of the night, and a shuttle astronaut.

His brother asked him several weeks ago what would happen if something went wrong on their mission. David replied, “This program will go on.”

Michael Anderson always wanted to fly planes, and rose to the rank of Lt. Colonel in the Air Force. Along the way, he became a role model — especially for his two daughters and for the many children he spoke to in schools. He said to them, “Whatever you want to be in life, you’re training for it now.” He also told his minister, “If this thing doesn’t come out right, don’t worry about me, I’m just going on higher.”

Laurel Salton Clark was a physician and a flight surgeon who loved adventure, loved her work, loved her husband and her son. A friend who heard Laurel speaking to Mission Control said, “There was a smile in her voice.”

Laurel conducted some of the experiments as Columbia orbited the Earth, and described seeing new life emerge from a tiny cocoon. “Life,” she said, “continues in a lot of places, and life is a magical thing.”

None of our astronauts traveled a longer path to space than Kalpana Chawla. She left India as a student, but she would see the nation of her birth, all of it, from hundreds of miles above. When the sad news reached her home town, an administrator at her high school recalled, “She always said she wanted to reach the stars. She went there, and beyond.” Kalpana’s native country mourns her today, and so does her adopted land.

Ilan Ramon also flew above his home, the land of Israel. He said, “The quiet that envelopes space makes the beauty even more powerful. And I only hope that the quiet can one day spread to my country.” Ilan was a patriot; the devoted son of a holocaust survivor, served his country in two wars. “Ilan,” said his wife, Rona, “left us at his peak moment, in his favorite place, with people he loved.”

The Columbia’s pilot was Commander Willie McCool, whom friends knew as the most steady and dependable of men. In Lubbock today they’re thinking back to the Eagle Scout who became a distinguished Naval officer and a fearless test pilot. One friend remembers Willie this way: “He was blessed, and we were blessed to know him.”

Our whole nation was blessed to have such men and women serving in our space program. Their loss is deeply felt, especially in this place, where so many of you called them friends. The people of NASA are being tested once again. In your grief, you are responding as your friends would have wished — with focus, professionalism, and unbroken faith in the mission of this agency.

Captain Brown was correct: America’s space program will go on. This cause of exploration and discovery is not an option we choose; it is a desire written in the human heart. We are that part of creation which seeks to understand all creation. We find the best among us, send them forth into unmapped darkness, and pray they will return. They go in peace for all mankind, and all mankind is in their debt.

Yet, some explorers do not return. And the loss settles unfairly on a few. The families here today shared in the courage of those they loved. But now they must face life and grief without them. The sorrow is lonely; but you are not alone. In time, you will find comfort and the grace to see you through. And in God’s own time, we can pray that the day of your reunion will come.

And to the children who miss your Mom or Dad so much today, you need to know, they love you, and that love will always be with you. They were proud of you. And you can be proud of them for the rest of your life.

The final days of their own lives were spent looking down upon this Earth. And now, on every continent, in every land they could see, the names of these astronauts are known and remembered. They will always have an honored place in the memory of this country. And today I offer the respect and gratitude of the people of the United States.

May God bless you all.

From left to right: Brown, Husband, Clark, Chawla, Anderson, McCool, Ramon

From left to right: Brown, Husband, Clark, Chawla, Anderson, McCool, Ramon

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For Queen's Mother, Elizabeth Bowes-Lyon: 'A woman of grace', by Geroge Carey - 2002

April 2, 2020

9 April 2002, Westminster Abbey, London, United Kingdom

We gather in this great Abbey to mourn and to give thanks. It is a fitting place to do so, a place where the story of our nation and the story of the woman we now commend to her Heavenly Father are intertwined.

It was here that Elizabeth Bowes-Lyon was married and became Duchess of York; it was here that she was crowned Queen; it was here that, as Queen Mother, she attended the coronation of her own daughter. It is fitting, then, that a place that stood at the centre of her life should now be the place where we honour her passing.

In the 10 days since she left us, there have been countless tributes and expressions of affection and respect — including those of the many people who have queued and filed patiently past her coffin lying-in-state.

How should we explain the numbers? Not just by the great length of a life, famously lived to the full. It has to do with her giving of herself so readily and openly.

There was about her, in George Eliot’s lovely phrase, “the sweet presence of a good diffused”.

Like the sun, she bathed us in her warm glow. Now that the sun has set and the cool of the evening has come, some of the warmth we absorbed is flowing back towards her.

If there is one verse of scripture which captures her best, it is perhaps the description of a gracious woman in the final chapter of the book of Proverbs. It says: “Strength and dignity are her clothing and she laughs at the time to come.”

Strength, dignity and laughter — three great gifts which we honour and celebrate today.

The Queen Mother’s strength as a person was expressed best through the remarkable quality of her dealings with people — her ability to make all human encounters, however fleeting, feel both special and personal.

As her eighth Archbishop of Canterbury, I can vouch for that strength.

Something of it is reflected in the fact that for half a century we knew her and understood her as the Queen Mother. It is a title whose resonance lies less in its official status than in expressing one of the most fundamental of all roles and relationships — that of simply being a mother, a mum, the Queen Mum.

For her family, that maternal strength — given across the generations to children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren — has been a precious gift and blessing.

Its loss is felt keenly today. And as they grieve, we say to the Queen and to Prince Philip; to Charles, Anne, Andrew, Edward, David and Sarah as grandchildren; and to all their children: you are in our thoughts and cradled in our prayers and those of countless millions round the world.

The very first letter Elizabeth wrote on becoming Queen in the traumatic and daunting circumstances of 1936 was to one of my predecessors as Archbishop of Canterbury. It gives a further insight into the source of her strength.

She wrote: “I can hardly believe that we have been called to this tremendous task… and the curious thing is we are not afraid.”

With her openness to people, indeed as part of it, came a quiet courage. A courage manifest in wartime and widowhood, a courage that endured to the end.

Strength, dignity and laughter.

There was certainly nothing remote or distant about her own sense of dignity. Her smile, her wave, the characteristic tilt of her head: all made the point immediately and beyond words. It was a dignity that rested not on the splendid trappings of royalty, but on a sense of the nobility of service.

On their wedding day here, the Archbishop of York spoke to the newly married couple of their life together: “We cannot resolve that it shall be happy,” he said, “but you can and will resolve that it shall be noble.”

And indeed it was. An unfailing sense of service and duty made it so. It was a commitment nourished by the Queen Mother’s Christian faith. A faith that told her, as it tells us all, that even the Son of God came into the world as a servant, not as a master.

Strength, dignity and, yes, laughter.

We come here to mourn but also to give thanks, to celebrate the person and her life — both filled with such a rich sense of fun and joy and the music of laughter.

With it went an immense vitality that did not fail her. Hers was a great old age, but not a cramped one. She remained young at heart, and the young themselves sensed that.

Of course, the laughter of the book of Proverbs goes deeper than a good joke or a witty reply. “She laughs at the time to come”: such laughter reflects an attitude of confident hope in the face of adversity and the unpredictable challenges of life.

Of this laughter too, the Queen Mother knew a great deal. It was rooted in the depth and simplicity of her abiding faith that this life is to be lived to the full as a preparation for the next.

Her passing was truly an Easter death — poised between Good Friday and Easter Day. In the light of the promise that Easter brings, we will lay her to rest knowing that the same hope belongs to all who trust in the One who is the resurrection and the life.

Strength, dignity, laughter — three special qualities, earthed in her Christian faith. Qualities that clothed her life so richly. Qualities that with her passing, we too — by the grace of God — may seek to put on afresh, in our own lives and the life of our nation and world. Let that be part of her legacy, part of our tribute.

And lastly this: for the book of Proverbs has more to say about a gracious woman; words we can summon now as we commend to her Heavenly Father his faithful servant Elizabeth — Queen, Queen Mother, Queen Mum — deeply loved and greatly missed.

It simply says of a woman of grace: “Many have done excellently, but you exceed them all

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for Ron Blainey: 'I’d like to think he’s gone where the Calathumpians go', by Trevor Blainey - 2020

April 2, 2020

31 January 2020, Tobin Brothers, Doncaster, Melbourne, Australia

Early Days

Dad was born on 26th October 1931 to Robert James Wesley Blainey and Ivy Isobel Blainey in a hospital in Moreland Road in the then Vaucluse Hospital, now Brunswick Private. A child during the war, too young to serve, but not too young to be affected by it. In his early days he lived in Brunswick and in due course he went to Brunswick South PS.

Later the family moved to West Preston and he started secondary school at Northcote High. There, dad is a capable student and good athlete excelling in maths, track and field and the weird version of mortal combat known as Lacrosse. A minor sport then and still that way now, it had its origins in Canada and North America developed by their indigenous peoples and was introduced into Australia by a Canadian in the late 19th Century. A sport of speed, agility and violence, Dad loved it. And excelled at it. He played from his pre-teens until his early 30’s. Again, he loved it.

Lacrosse


While at Northcote High Dad met friends that he’d have for life including in particular Reg Ratcliffe and Wes George. The school was one of a handful in the North and another few in the East that had Lacrosse teams and these mates took it up with gusto. They later played together for Coburg, a team that was affiliated with the Coburg Harriers, an athletics club and those clubs had playing fields and aths tracks that are still there and in use today. McDonald’s Reserve in Bell Street in the shadows of the infamous Blue Stone College aka Her Majesty’s Prison, Pentridge. The Coburg Lacrosse team was where he met David Jackson, Graeme Reid, Don Stapleton and Nobby O’Brien all lifelong mates. Dad ran for the Harriers in the summer and played Lacrosse in winter. His forte in aths was then called the Hop, Step and Jump and is now known as the Triple Jump. He was a State Junior champ at that but also competed at a high level in the hurdles and the sprints.

His Dad


Sadly an event that would have a profound effect on Dad then and for much of the remainder of his life happened soon after he started High School. When he was 12 his father, the archetypal soldier of fortune, left for Sydney to drive Taxis. US forces were stationed there while the War in the Pacific was in full swing. They had money to spend, economically times were tough in Melbourne and he took off never to return. In his late teens when dad was competing in a National Aths Championship in Sydney he looked him up but I can only assume that that proved to be a disappointing encounter. Dad never saw his father again after the age of 19. Much later in life for reasons that are reasonably easy to guess at Dad became interested in the family tree. He was delivered another shattering blow when in 1994 he discovered that his father had passed away in 1971.

Which leads me to what I regard as the central motif of my father’s life. His love of family and his resolve, never shaken, that, not on his watch, would such a thing happen to anyone in his care. This was the Signifying Event in dad’s life.

Family

A direct result of his dad’s departure was that my father was now the child of a single mum, the redoubtable Ivy (my Nana), who then went to work in retail at Coles. With a 12 YO boy to look after. As the proverb goes It Takes a Village. Nana’s family swung into action. Her brother Murray Exelby, a lifelong bachelor, moved into the family home in West Preston. Another income, a bit of rent. Her sister Grace’s family, the Wilsons, became a de facto surrogate family, minded him after school, fed him and looked out for him. And another brother Les offered Dad his first job. At the age of just 14, somewhat forced by circumstance dad left school and went to work for Uncle Les. Selling women’s lingerie. Not kidding. Heady days I daresay.

Work

But that wasn’t dad’s forte. At school it had been sport and maths and English and trade related subjects. He loved fixing things, seeing how they worked. So another family member, Les Chapple, offered dad a job at his small engineering factory in Preston. Chapple Brothers, a family business. Dad loved it, loved working with the uncles and their sons, his cousins. But he could see the value in getting a qualification, having missed out on proceeding to tertiary because of his early exit from school and, in those days, because working class boys didn’t go to Uni as readily as now. So he went to night school to RMIT to get a Boilermakers ticket which he duly completed. A Boilermaker. An old skill. It’s sheet metal work. Boilermakers assemble, maintain and repair large vessels and enclosed vats.

Mum

Now while all of this running and jumping and medieval violence involving sticks (Lacrosse) and learning and earning is going on I can hear you say “What of love Trev? When did he meet your mum?”. At age 17 Dad’s mate from NHS, Reg, invited Dad to a Mystery Picnic. Mum’s friend from up the street, Beverley invited mum to the same outing. Reg and Bev were boyfriend and girlfriend. Can you see where this is heading? A Mystery Picnic has a group gather at a location, get picked up by a furniture van fitted out for passengers (not very safely I wouldn’t have thought) and taken to a mystery picnic spot. In this case Canadian Bay, a small beach near Mount Eliza. Now at 17 Dad was shy, at least around girls. It was a hot day and his concession to the heat was a short sleeved shirt. But long pants and shoes. Wouldn’t doff his kit into his swimmers. Reckoned his legs were too skinny. But a walk along the beach seemed OK. And thus started a love that remained undiminished from that day until now. Pretty good by any measure.

On the 27th February 1954 Ron Blainey of West Preston and June Chadwick of West Heidelberg were married at St Patrick’s Cathedral in bright sunshine on a perfect day. Reg Ratcliffe was Dad’s groomsman, as Dad was his. A mixed marriage. Mum, a good catholic girl from Mercy College and dad? When I asked a few times what his tribe was he shrugged and said “A Calathumpian I guess.” It wasn’t clear. It didn’t matter.

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Children and Bulleen

Mum and dad spent the first three years of their married life living with Nana in West Preston while they saved for a house. In 1955 I was born. While his friends are in the marrying season and buying property in Coburg and Pascoe Vale and Glenroy Dad buys a block of land in …. Bulleen. No made roads, no sewerage, no telephone. Orchards, paddocks, a quarry where the Yarralean estate now sits. Ever seen a horse born? I have. In the paddock two doors away. Crikey. No supermarket, just a little strip of shops with a butcher, a greengrocer and a general store. What else would you need?

On the back of the Boilermakers ticket and his experience at Chapple Bros dad had gotten a job at a company called Pict. A frozen foods processing factory. In Notting Hill. Not the quaint London suburb. Near Clayton, near Monash Uni. No freeways. Driving from Bulleen each day. He’s a fitter and turner and he’s now really on the path in something that he’s well suited to.

In 1958 along came Gary and in 1960, Janine. That was our lot, our family. We were what many Australian families then looked like. Dad was our protector and provider. Mum looked after us. On top of the day job at Pict which involved long hours I remember him wrung out and stressed a lot of the time. He was however committed to the cause. He was determined to provide for us and also to look after his mother. Despite his somewhat irreligious outlook we were to go to the local Catholic schools. They cost more than the State schools.

Despite being in the wilds of the shire of Manningham Dad and Mum were keen to maintain contact with friends and family over in the North. So was born the notion of the monthly turn whereby once a month they’d all gather on a Saturday night at one house or another for a get together. Beer, shandy’s and Cinzano and lemonade, maybe some moselle and a barbecue. Cards, board games, knitting, music, maybe some dancing and talk. Lot’s of talking. Home by 11. Thus the boys of Northcote High and the girls they’d met and married stayed united and in touch. The monthly turns stopped eventually but those friendship bonds never did.

Work


Dad’s fortunes at Pict improved. The company was the subject of mergers and takeovers and eventually it had merged with an NZ company called Watties. Dad continued up the ladder, shift work and second jobs no longer necessary and he was promoted to the role of Plant Engineer. He supervised the entire processing plant and was responsible for keeping those wheels turning. He became known for his ability to problem solve the many widgets and wodgets that a food processing factory has and was often sent to other factories in the Wattie Pict empire to fix things. I can remember him being flown in light aircraft to the factory in Millicent in SA and also in bigger planes to the plant in Glenn Innes in Queensland when things went awry there. Later in life he had an aversion to flying and I wonder if a bumpy ride one day might not have put the kibosh on future air travel.

He is remembered fondly now by those work mates of his still alive. An aspect of his time at Wattie Pict is that he was a mentor and good boss to many young people who worked there. In their number was a good friend of mine Gerry Collins, now sadly deceased himself, who worked there for a few years after spending a year mucking around with me at Swinburne. Gerry went on to establish his own successful company in due course. His wife Lisa recently reflected kindly on Dad’s mentorship of Gerry at that time.

As time went by more takeovers, more mergers and the frozen food business suffered a downturn. Finally Streets the ice cream maker had taken over the factory and in the end dad had the melancholy duty of being the one to put the chain through the gate, put the padlock on it as they ceased to manufacture in Victoria. The journey through that industry had seen him become valued and expert in a business that like many others chose to develop new methods in new places that no longer had the need for many of its workers or much of its machinery. And therefore no need for Dad. It’s 1984 and for the first time since he was 14, my dad is out of work. He’s 53. I’ve never forgotten the look on his face when he came home that day.

Children Growing and Blainair

But otherwise we’d prospered. Janine and I had finished degrees and started our working lives, Gary had just started his company called Blainair installing ducted heating and airconditioning. Like our parents we were in the marrying and partnering season and we were on the way. Dad’s hard work had laid the foundations for all of that. Job done perhaps but not quite. In 1985 Dad and Gary agree that he will join Blainair. Gary is the tradesman who can do the work but needs help with managing and running a small business. The nature of the work is in dad’s experience anyway. He understands machinery, gadgets, how things work and they set out to see how they fit into the building industry. They learn together and the business grows. They start in the house in Bulleen, Dad and Gary, mum answering the phone. They get a shop in Camberwell, then a factory in Bulleen. I remember the milestones, the sales targets achieved, units sold. They grow slowly and steadily carving out a niche in the North East – father and son. They add employees a few of whom now have 20+ years service. Nick Cook starts as an 18 YO boy and is now a partner in the business. Has his own family. My daughter Claire had one of his kids at the kinder she taught at. I like that. Pete and Dave have worked there 20+ years.

By the time dad eases out at the age of 72 in 2004 the business is on a steady footing. Gary runs the business. His son Marcus works there too and has told his dad to move over. They now employ 14 people full time and use 6 regular subbies. Dad had a great influence on that success.

Anglesea


But along the way dad and mum have had their eyes on other prizes. They love the West Coast. Had their honeymoon in Lorne. Stayed at the Cumberland Hotel. Great friends of theirs in John and Joy Puxley have a big ramshackle place on the hill behind the shops at Anglesea. We had many holidays there, a tribe of kids, several adults, the monthly turn goes coastal. Dad gets a caravan and leaves it at the Narambi Caravan Park year around. We get the coastal holidays at our own place now. In 1989 they buy a block in a quiet court and put a 10 square fibro shack on it. 4 rooms, a postage stamp on a hanky but it’s theirs.

Still Dad looks ahead. We’ve started to marry and have our own children. Cassie and I marry in 1980, later Gary and Janine also marry. Matthew arrived in 1987, followed by Marcus, Alex, Claire, Ruby and Eliza, all Dad’s cherished and much loved grandchildren. Later in the piece Gary welcomes Jed and Lilly via his new partner Jane into the family and Dad and Mum are replete. The kids all love the beach. But the shack in Brierley Court is too small. One day Dad says “Let’s get in the car, we’re going for a drive.” We arrive at 25 Second Avenue in Anglesea. On the hill overlooking Point Roadknight. It’s an auction. He puts his hand up a few times and wins the day. The place at the coast now has a bit of heft to it. A swimming pool even. He loved that pool. And a pool table. Bigger than the tricky little one at Robert Street.

In 2000 before retirement officially but when things have slowed down they move down to Anglesea to start the Final Quarter. They settle into the town and it settles into them. They make friends, new friends, not the same as old mates with shared histories and weddings and babies, but great mates nonetheless. Many in their own twilights but all of whom love the winter quiet of a small town and the things on offer in the summer. A meeting place in what’s now called Bumblebeez Café becomes the hub for the local retirees. It’s now run by Ben and Bruno. But before that its John Danielle and then Furio and Allyson. All are kind to the older couple who come in each day to meet their new friends. John Birt, Elaine and Barry Browning, Margaret and John Cummings and Bill and Marlene Hughes. Brian and Jill Emerson and their son Jamie. Brian died a few years ago and the next time Jamie saw dad he wrapped him in a bear hug and cried. And thanked him. In the street. New friends, great mates.

I’ve left a couple of stories and some important relationships and connections until last.
First the stories which I think say something about my dad.

Anecdotes


In the Order of Service (put together by Eliza, thank you) that follows you’ll see a shot that shows just how close the Coburg playing fields were to the walls of Pentridge. One day while playing Lacrosse an errant pass saw the ball sail over that wall into the prison. It’s not now. It’s then. Post war, the effects of the Great Depression keenly felt. Back then noone goes to play cricket with 15 bats in their kit. I’m looking at you Steve Smith. Noone changes racquets every set if not more often. Noone has a pair of footy boots for every day of the week. Times are tough. Even Lacrosse balls aren’t cheap. So over he goes. Over the wall. Dad. Into the prison. To fetch the ball. Gives the guards a wave. They wave back. Jumps back over, game on. I’ve grilled mum about this and she swears it happened. I believe her. Dad had a cheeky side that we all loved. In his final days Cassie whispered into his ear “It’s me Cassie, I’m here with Trevor.” He blinked in recognition and said “Well I’ll be buggered. How about that.” With a smile. And went back to sleep.

He loved to ride his bike and had a great mate in his cousin Bill Parsons. They used to ride from Brunswick to Sylvan to pick strawberries at the Parsons Family Strawberry Farm. Put that into Google Maps and see how you go. No lycra, no gears, no helmets. Modern bikes could be hoisted overhead by a toddler. Back then? No titanium in those days. Steel frames, tyres from tractors. It would have been hard work. All in a days lark for dad.

Breaking The News


I had to break the news to some old people in the last couple of weeks. It’s sad for us all but very sad for them who’ve lost touch and still remember him fondly. I rang Madge Hartwig (formerly Exelby) a twin of Jean now deceased. Madge married Rex, a tennis Hall of Famer in doubles, Davis Cup, Wimbledon the lot. A brush with fame for the family. Her uncle Les paid for dad and Madge and Jean’s tennis lessons. The village again. She said, sadly, “He was my favorite cousin.” There’s been a lot of that.

Close Friends and the Bombers


I have to mention one of mum and dad’s Anglesea friends in John Birt. Partly because it allows me to talk about the Essendon footy club and dad’s odd relationship with it. John played for Essendon in the sixties and would have played in the premierships in 1962 and 1965. He later went over to the Dark Side and played for Collingwood. He’s otherwise a good fella. He’s been a very good friend to mum and dad in their Anglesea phase and particularly helpful and kind recently. Kept in touch with me and mum, ran errands for them, took the bins in at the house and so on. Knows clearly what being a mate is. Thanks to you John.
But back to the Bombers. You wouldn’t call Dad an Essendon supporter. He was really an Essendon critic. He reminded me of Waldorf and Statler from the Muppets. You’ll have to ask Mrs Google that too if you don’t know what I mean. The last time he took me to the footy was the Preliminary final in 1966. We got flogged in the wet by the Saints and mainly by Darrel Baldock. I don’t think he ever recovered. And this despite the fact that his Uncles Murray Exelby and Stan Wilson both played over 100 games for the Dons, took him to the footy VFL, VFA and the metropolitan clubs they later played and coached for. After I left home he’d ring me after every game. “Didja go?” “Yeah dad, they were pretty good to day.” He had an answer. “They can’t kick” or “they’re too slow” or “why do they handball all the time? And backwards.” It was a conversation I could never make headway in. A few years ago we’d added Adam Saad and Connor McKenna. The call came after a game we’d won and they’d been good in. “Did you see Saady and Connor dad? Jet propelled they were. I think we’ve fixed the speed problem.” He paused. “What’s the good of running like buggery down the ground if you don’t know what to do when you get there?” Checkmate.
He had a particular regard (or lack of it) for certain players. Had them in the gun. Most recently it was Joe Daniher. “He can’t kick straight. What are they paying him all that money for if he can’t kick straight?” Per custom I defended Joey. “He’s got OP Dad. A lot of the big fellas get it. Buddy has got it.” Pause. “He can’t kick …”. Ever hopeful late last year at the end of the trade period I spoke to Dad. “We’ve stuck to our guns Dad. We’ve hung onto Joey. He’ll play for us next year.” Pause. A long pause. “Oh. Shit.” He then went quiet.

Ron Blainey, with sons Gary and Trevor

Ron Blainey, with sons Gary and Trevor


Family

OK so it’s time on in the last quarter. Nearly there. Family. I’d be remiss not to mention the Wilson family again. Stan and Grace and their children Russell, Lance, Dianne and my great mate Glenda. Parents, brothers and sisters to my dad always. A great support to my Nana and for my dad. They moved into our street in Bulleen when we were in our teens. Dad and Stan and Russell and Lance raced greyhounds with a lot of success. Poor man’s racing but fun all the same. Stan and dad walked them. Stan, about whom I could speak forever (don’t worry I wont) was quite a fella. Backman’s knuckles, teetotaller, kind and gentle he called in every night about tea time. We looked forward to it. I know dad did. Uncle Stan was making sure we were OK. The village. Family. Bless ‘em all.

Not a footnote so much as a late note. My sister in law Jan, her husband Tim and their children Rick, Serena and Jamie are our family down the coast, the Torquay connection. Jan and Tim have been great recently with Jan in particular visiting mum and dad many times. Not to labour the point but it is the point. Dad’s point. Family. Thanks Jannie. We had a great Christmas at the Kaisers in Dad’s last proper outing. In the video presentation coming up (thanks to Ruby who prepared it with the help of Eliza, Claire and Alex) you’ll see him sitting there at the end smiling, happy as. Guarding his presents and his chocolates I should say. A really good day.

Dad didn’t like crowds. I think that’s why he gave the footy a wide berth. Never went to the cinema, the theatre, no galleries except little country ones, I doubt that he ever set foot in Fed Square. Or the city in the last half century for that matter. However I really mean he didn’t like big crowds. But there was a type of crowd he loved. The gatherings of family and friends at his home whether it was in the Bulleen house or the one at Anglesea. Usually on the feast days, Christmas, birthdays. He loved those occasions. Loved having all those familiar and loved nearby. That extended to my friends and I assume Gary’s and Janine’s. The house in Bulleen became a hub for our mates. Beer in the fridge, the pool table ready to use. A mate from school Des Maloney and his brother Bernie used to go to the bike races at Bathurst every year. Year after year they’d drop into Robert Street at sparrows fart on the day they left for cackleberries and toast and a cuppa and then get on their way. I don’t think Bulleen is on the way to Bathurst from their home in Burwood but there it is. It was that kind of place.

We had a lot of family days at Anglesea. He loved his grandkids. Made sure everything was ready for when they came. Cleaned the pool to laboratory cleanliness in the days leading up to a family do. Rang me and told me he was doing it. Not the most exciting of topics but it seemed important that I know. “what’ll we need? Two chops and a sausage each enough for everybody? Chicken kebabs? I’ve got a slab of heavy and a slab of light. Enough? Are you bringing the red? I’ve got one that one of the suppliers gave me last Christmas. Looks alright.” Just checking. Making sure. Providing. Family paramount. And he’d ring back two days later and run through the list again.

Legacy

When someone who has reached a good age passes away there is inevitably a reflection on their legacy. As I’ve said often throughout Dad loved family and was keen for all to prosper. Often asked how each was going, what they were up to. Just checking. He would be well pleased with what he left behind. Amongst his grandchildren there is a nurse working in aged care, a kinder teacher, a graphic design student, a filmmaker and radio presenter, a young manager in retail, the heir to the family business (look out Gaz) and a lawyer. Still others working in marketing and the building trade. All doing stuff. Interested in sports, fashion, the arts, the environment. Some interested in politics, some not. Good types all of them. Look you in the eye, shake your hand, smile a lot. You did well dad.

So I speak today on behalf of my brother, sister, their children and mine, Ian and Jane and my wife Cassie and of course my mum. We’ve all worked hard in recent times to shepherd my parents through this stage of their lives. Our hope is that we’ve made good on dad’s resolve all those years ago. That was always the aim.

Our dad, our grandpa and a much loved husband and friend to many has passed on. I have wondered where to if anywhere. I’d like to think he’s gone where the Calathumpians go. And that wherever that is they’re young again. Those Calathumpians. Fit and agile. Playing Lacrosse probably. Dad’s got Reg and Don and Wes playing with him. And Nobby O’Brien. Did I mention him? He also passed away this week. RIP Nobby. They’re being cheered on by Bev and Don’s beautiful Betty and Graeme’s lovely Gwen. Pucko might be there and Jack. And over the cheering can be heard the voice of Jacko’s mum, Coburg’s Number 1 supporter. “Give the ball to Ronnie. They can’t catch him. He’s too fast. Go Ronnie go.” And go he does. At a clip charging towards the net. Look out. And if the ball goes over the wall we know who’ll fetch it.

Job’s done dad.

The Pools clean, the water sparkling in the sun.
The dogs have been walked, the bins are out and there are plenty of soft drinks in the fridge in case the grandkids come over. And you’ve got an endless supply of chocolate ginger and licorice to enjoy.

Rest easy, old man. You’ve earnt it.

26 October 1931 – 20 January 2020

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For Yossl Baker: 'He lit up a room with his entire personality', by Mark Baker - 2020

March 1, 2020

26 February 2020, Melbourne Chevra Kadisha, St Kilda, Melbourne, Australia

Death is no stranger to my family; this is the third time in four years I’ve sat on that dreaded bench but today I’m alone with my mother and an empty space beside us. Back when the family plots were vacant, Johnny and I used to joke about who would be buried next to which parent. Which of us would get to listen to an eternal recitation of my mother’s poetic speeches about how being underground was not unlike her hiding spot in a black hole during the Holocaust, or who would be in direct earshot of my father’s jokes, his business commentary, and the TV tuned on full blast between ‘ or ‘Who Vonts to be a Millionaire?’ That was meant to be a long way off in the future. Today has put that discussion to rest; fate has determined it for us, with a twist no one could ever have predicted about the tragic order of things. Johnny and I also used to joke that we have great genes. Only last week one of my orphaned friends commented how unusual it is for our generation to have not one, but two living survivor parents. There’s also an irony in that, a painful one that has highlighted for our family the cruel randomness of life. Until Kerryn and then Johnny joined the inhabitants of this ghostly shtetl, my Dad came almost every Sunday for a consecration, before moving on to Chadstone to measure the condition of retail. While here, he would walk around the rows and aisles and point out the familiar graves, and with his Talmudic memory that could put a pin through the page of the life of any person, recite with precision an obscure or a hilarious story about Shloimeleh, or Moishe, or Meyer, or Freda, and the growing number of friends that were moving here until there was no one left back home to fill the four sides of a card table.

His memory and ability to connect the dots was one of his most remarkable features, and he carried it until his last day. You all know that look: his mind whirring like a poker machine until ding, he hits the jackpot and the details of your relatives pour out. ‘Ah. I knew your Zaida when he was a tailor in Flinders Street. I bought yarn off him for 2 pounds a yard in 1961.’ Or, ‘Ah, I remember your Buba danced with Chaim in Maison de Luxe on a Wednesday but he vos little and when his head bumped her tsiskes his vig fell off.’ And then his body would convulse with laughter until tears streamed out of his eyes, because he could actually see the scene unfolding before him in technicolour, every frame of it, going all the way back to Poland. No one has ever bumped into Yossl on the street without learning something they didn’t know about their ancestors. ‘Khai you,’ he would greet them, ‘Khu you,’ and then he’d tell you exactly Khu you were, rattling off stories like a Catskill comedian, a touch of the gossipy Yente in him, but never never was there a hint of malice and always always it was with loving humour. His humour. It was inbuilt in him and rippled through his whole body, his gesticulations, his passion, the way he lit up a room with his entire personality, and most of all with his eyes – sparkling, twinkling, blinking rapidly from over-excitement.

There’s the famous story from the Talmud of the House of Hillel and Shammai arguing through the night about whether God should create Adam and Eve. This argument was the one occasion the rival schools came to a unanimous agreement. No, they said, adding that now that the deed is done let’s deal with the consequences. In one sense they were right – my parents’ torments and suffering are testament to that, but on the other, if they could have gazed into the future and met my Dad, they would have reached a unanimous view the other way. Yossl wasn’t just larger than life; he created a parallel world of human possibility, of kindness, unconditional love, almost perfection. And like any world, his had its own language. Yosslisms, we called them. I’m sure you won’t hear a talk in the coming days that doesn’t refer to his unique vocabulary. The words weren’t random, they made grammatical sense. On their honeymoon when my mum was 19, they went to Sydney and she got appendicitis. Such a hard word for a migrant but he stripped away the medical pretensions and reduced it to its original source. A pain in the sitis. In his world, not everyone was Jewish, but as the title of the Yiddish album from the 1960s went, ‘When You’re in Love the Whole World Is Jewish’. ‘Is he or she Jewish?’ was always his first question, asked at the top of his voice, and it almost always pleased him to learn they were, except he feared, as he told me last week, an outbreak of antisemitism if either Sanders or Bloomingberg were elected. Otherwise, he would turn gentiles into Jews, such as Erin Brokovich, who he called Aron Berkovic, or the famous actor Maximilian Schell who somehow became his old friend, Muscatel.

And then there was his most famous line. ‘Genia’s in Surfers and I’m in Paradise.’ This week that joke was tragically fulfilled, but until then, it was nothing more than a gag. For the truth is that my father never left my mother’s side for a second, he was her protector, redeemer and carer from the day he courted her as a new immigrant to Australia. ‘He spoiled me rotten,’ Mum will say, though she rightly takes credit that she tamed and anchored this handsome muscly man whose postwar image is captured in a series of photos of him on a motorbike, or sitting on the bonnet of his Humber Hawk, a cigarette dangling from his mouth.

And so it seems fitting, hard as it was for us, that his sudden and unexpected death took place in Surfers Paradise, because our times there carry so many threads from his life, and also of his death. I think of the holidays Johnny and I had as children at the Chevron with so many family friends, all of them survivors who never spoke of their past, but laughed around the pool or baked on the beach shmeared with baby oil with silver foil fans to attract extra sun, how they played red aces, and the times during my strict kosher days that my Mum furtively cooked kosher schnitzel for me in a bathroom from the patelnia (pan), while my father fanned the smoke away; until the high-rise apartments shadowed the beachfront and they made their home away from home in Allungah at Paradise Centre.

How did they do it, these survivors? Did they cast their trauma behind them on their boat to Australia, deliberately choosing life over death, or more likely, did they bottle it up inside them, the past and present entangled, shaping their personalities. Like the time when I sat with my Dad in their apartment in Surfers and I asked him to tell me his story, the only family tree he never wanted to explore, and I asked him how far the train was from the gas chambers when he arrived at Birkenau, and he casually pointed through the windows and said, ‘Oh, about from here to Cavill Avenue.’ Still, Surfers, it seemed, was a sanctuary they could escape to, but in more recent years, it was a different experience they were trying to escape, but could never shake off; the loss of Kerryn and then my brother and their son Johnny. At home, they were in deep grief within the four walls of their apartment which they would never leave. After a three year break, we were relieved that they agreed to resume their visits to Surfers. While it was easier to keep a vigilant eye on them in Melbourne, they were more independent, an elevator ride from the arcade and the restaurants and the Pokies. I won’t say they were happy, that would be expecting too much, but the pain was more bearable away from Melbourne where they felt caged in a prison of memories, eased through the daily phone calls from me and Anita which always began with a kvetch from my Dad about how hard life is because their grief always pursued them, even with the background tv sound of a tennis game and the roar of the expansive ocean.

My mum said we’ve been coming to Surfers for 62 years but nothing’s the same. The times when they knew everyone in every apartment of Paradise Centre, a community of Holocaust survivors, are gone. The people around them are unfamiliar, yet everywhere they go, they are celebrities. When Michelle and I were there last month, followed by visits from some grandchildren and other relatives, we were stunned. At Charlies, home to the famous scene when Dad asked for a breakfast of ‘risin toast’, and was served a bowl of ‘rice and toast’, the waiters loved them, learned his language and so understood that when Dad asked for Brigetta, he meant a bruschetta, or that rumash meant mushroom. In the newsagent where he ordered his weekly ‘Jewish News’ and pile of magazines for Mum which I took to the hospital, the woman knew him so well, and when the kids went to tell her yesterday what had happened, she rubbed her arms with goosebumps and eyes watering with tears. At the Italian restaurant on Orchard Avenue, the young owners embraced them both, and my Dad reminisced about how they played tennis together on the Ballah court 40 years ago, the court I stared at yesterday from the balcony where my mother was smoking her umpteenth cigarette, the court empty but imagining him with his distinct serve. In the Chinese restaurant on the Highway the owner almost fed his favourite customer with a spoon, and when we went to the casino, a French croupier who hadn’t seen my parents for ages greeted them excitedly, especially my Mum, with a cry of Georgina. We saw it at Hurricanes, overflowing with summer diners. ‘I’m sorry,’ I was told, ‘there’s a 90 minute wait.’ I despaired and we left but my Dad had hobbled off with his stick and within 30 seconds a young manager chased me and said, ‘we have a table for you.’

How did you do it Dad, this magic with people?

But what my parents missed more than anything during their times in Surfers, was their eight grandchildren - Timnah, Nadav, Mayan, Gilad, Karni, Gabe, Sarah, and Rachel and their partners and especially their great-grandchildren. They were their lifeline, every single one of them, who my father adored unconditionally and they in turn worshipped him. The day Gil and Shani brought the twins, Ziggy and Aya from Byron to visit them in Surfers, they were exploding with excitement and joy. Who knew that these two broken grief-stricken people could find the space to be so inflated with boundless love and life. And so it came as no surprise that the trigger for their planned return came this week after a 3 month stay. ‘Book us a flight for Friday,’ my Dad said. ‘Mummy’s ready. We want to be back for our Rudilu’s birthday on Sunday and his little sister Addy.’ That booking was never made. On Friday morning I got a call that my Dad had fallen. Everything that happened from this point personifies him. They were on Cavill Avenue and an ambulance was called. My Mum went up to the apartment to get his tablets and pack some things for him. He was in the ambulance when she returned, and the drivers said she has to leave. ‘No,’ she said, climbing in. ‘He would never leave me. Never.’ ‘I’m sorry, they said, you can’t come into the ambulance.’ ‘No,’ she repeated, ‘and if you want me to leave you will have to carry me out.’ They let her stay, of course.

I got a call from the hospital at 8 the following morning, 7 Surfers time. Twenty minutes later I was on my way to the airport, and when I arrived at the hospital, there was a bed made up for my mother who had slept by his side in his room. She explained they’d been in the emergency department till 4 in the morning. ‘How did they get my number at the hospital?’ I asked. ‘Dad remembered,’ she said, though he was delirious from a cocktail of drugs and from the pain in his fractured hip. ‘And why didn’t you ring me when it happened in the middle of the night?’ I asked, having only spoken to him about two hours before the fall. ‘Because Dad didn’t want to wake you and he told the hospital not to ring before 7 in the morning.’

From then on it was a barrage of meetings with doctors and filling out forms. Every encounter exposed a different angle of his life but nowhere did the truth come out more than when a nurse told me that he’d said when he arrived that he had come to Surfers for the funeral of his son. How true and revealing. As hard as they might try to compartmentalise their lives, the grief bleeds through the cracks, and expresses itself openly when the unconscious is given permission to speak.

From that moment, I became the mediator, stunned nonetheless that the two of them alone had got to this point with my Mum hard of hearing. ‘How old was he?’ they asked, handing me a form. I looked at the document and saw before me all the other documents I had uncovered from his youth. His birth certificate, his school records, his Auschwitz and Buchenwald registration, and immigration papers to Australia. Each one of them showed a different birthdate. In that second when the nurse waited for my answer, I thought of the schoolboy born in Wierzbnik-Starachowice in Poland, who jumped through the windows of Cheder to escape his teacher, and surpassed the naughtiest schoolboy act I’ve ever heard of by pissing in the pocket of the melamed’s coat; I thought of the boy being marched up a hill before he was barmitzvah with his brother Boruch from where he spent the next five years in a series of slave labour camps, before being sent to Auschwitz and then Buchenwald, where his father Leib had been killed in 1940, severed from his mother Hinde and sisters Marta and Yente who met their murderous fate in Treblinka. I thought of all the times someone whispered to him, tell them you’re older so that they sent you to a better section of the camp, or tell them you’re younger so you’re spared a certain death, or so you’re eligible for a visa to Australia. Time for my Dad didn’t move chronologically but was measured by a split-second decision that granted the possibility of extending his life.

So what do I tell the nurse and write in the form? His official date that he has lived by in Australia, 1 June 1929. Or is it more important for the doctors to know that he was born two years earlier, making him 92? Perhaps I should trick them and say what he believed, that he was born on April 11 1945, the day of his liberation, an age that matched his boyish personality. Or show them the photograph of him as an older man, pointing at the teenager in that iconic photograph of him a month after his liberation in Buchenwald. The message. Give him another chance to live.

His name. What do I write? Josek? Joe, as he was known in business? Or Yossl. Perhaps I should sing the Connie Francis song to him, as it was sung to him on his sixtieth birthday in our house at Aroona Rd, and as Rachel played it through her phone in his dying moments. One of his theme songs. ‘Ay yay yay Yossl, Yossl, Yossl, Yossl.’ It’s so sad, the kids said when they listened to it. I never thought of it as sad, until then.

And what of his surname. Baker. Born Bekiermaszyn. I’ve learned to spell it with its crashing Polish consonants. BEKIERMASZYN. One thing, the Nazis didn’t know how to spell it. Nor did the Jewish Agency, who listed him as a survivor on their registry in 1946, along with his brother Boruch. Together they went to Geneva with that name and spent the next three years being rehabilitated. I caught a glimpse of that transitional time once on a family holiday to St Moritz, when my Dad put on a pair of ice-skates, and whizzed around the rink. Who would have thought that I’d find myself living in that same place for four months last year with Michelle. I went in search of some of the gaps from his past, as though I could rewrite a section of The Fiftieth Gate. I found his name in the Swiss archives, and the location of the ORT Jewish training centre where he was sent after recuperating in a hospice from TB. ‘Do you remember where you lived?’ I asked him. ‘Oh, it was an orphanage,’ and he mumbled a name that no one in the Jewish community there recognised. ‘Could you see the fountain from where you lived?’ ‘Yes, I remember the shpritz,’ and eventually I found the approximate location of the Jewish welfare home in Switzerland. But what surprised me more than anything was that he asked the officials if he could use his stipend to live in a private home because – get ready for this – it was too noisy for him. My father, who had spent the previous five years in a string of death camps, summoned at dawn to the Appelplatz where he shouted out his number, had finally found sanctuary but thought it was too noisy. Perhaps, this was the beginning of his transition from the adolescent who endured filth and bedbugs, torture actually, deciding that he had expended all his energy on surviving and would later run at the sight of a moth, or a Mouse as he cried, leaving my Mum to do the swatting.

The documents in Australia show confusion about his name. Johnny’s birth certificate shows Bekiermaszyn, and it was soon after that he officially changed the family name to Baker, but upon receiving it, still signed it Bekiermaszyn. The name even carries on to my birth, back and forth. Perhaps he didn’t want to let go of the machine, because machines became his work life, starting with a single sewing-machine from which he built a business that exists to this day with his late and beloved brother Boruch and now the next generation on both sides led by Yechiel, Johnny’s place represented by Nadav, called Swiss Models appropriately after their time in Switzerland, though not really appropriately because it sounds like an escort agency.

And then there is his number. Instinctively, it was the one part of his body, punctured in hospital with a mess of needles, beeping machines and tubes, that we allowed ourselves to photograph. The nurses all noticed it and asked. I couldn’t resist telling them his story because perhaps, I hoped that the number would save him from death, as it did by sparing him from the gas chambers to the munition factories of the satellite camp, Buna Monowitz.

Before going in for hip surgery, I was told about the risks and had to sign forms. He emerged from surgery with a positive tone from the doctor. Soon after, things began to go wrong. His blood levels were dropping and eventually the doctors discovered internal bleeding. He would need another anaesthetic that same day to allow for a gastroscopy to locate and stop the bleeding. He was still delirious when I went in with my mother from the previous operation, but he still managed to get a few words out. His last words to us: Genia, hot gegessen? Have you eaten yet? he asked, looking at me and Mum. That was him, again, always thinking about others.

His situation improved and then we were told that he was critical and would die by the following day. As we sat by his bedside and watched the numbers on the monitors dive, the kids played music in his ear from their phone. ‘Zaida,’they said. ‘Listen.’ The first song was – what else? – ‘Rock Around the Clock’. That song is a beat that runs through his life, first danced alone when he came to Australia, about which he cheekily said that he went dancing 8 times a week, ‘tvice on Sunday’. Soon after my mother arrived, she caught his eye, and from that moment, they have rocked around the clock together, stepping in perfect harmony, and knowing each other’s movements like the inner mechanics of a Swiss watch. They danced it at Station Pier where their ship had docked in Australia for the launch of my book about them 25 years ago; they’ve danced it at every simcha, and at every Buchenwald Ball. And then, when tragedy began to strike our family, they led the dance at Gabe and Gabi’s engagement and wedding after Kerryn died. When Johnny was dying, I thought they would never be able to stand on their feet again, but when Gil and Shani got married soon after his death, they somehow rose from the grave they longed to share with him, and lifted all of our spirits, and especially Anita’s, by dancing. That’s it, I thought, the last dance. But their clock miraculously wound up again when Michelle and I married, and they mounted the stage by leading our family in their rapturous dance.

I still wanted more; we all did, even though my Dad was now using a stick to walk, and my Mum’s feet hurt. But the hands of the clock were ticking as the numbers on the ICU monitors plummeted. It’s been too many times that I’ve had to watch my mother say her goodbyes to the people she loved. My Dad found it harder to confront the deaths in our family, and would stand by the doorway, quivering and weeping. But my Mum, who has always been traumatised by the death of her mother at the end of the war, insisted on facing the inevitable. On Kerryn’s last day, she held her and shouted what would become the refrain of these past years, ‘Take me, If there’s a God in heaven then take me.’ And none of us will forget how she held Johnny’s hand, stroked his piano fingers as she called them, and pleaded to exchange places. ‘Why,’ she still beats her chest, ‘didn’t they take me instead of Johnny?’

And so on Sunday, she had to do it again, this time with her partner, lover, and carer of 67 years. She brushed his hair, and then made poetry out of every part of his body that she caressed. ‘These hands,’ she said, holding them, ‘worked so hard for our family.’ And then touching his chest, she said, ‘this heart, had only love for us.’ And then she turned to the nurses and begged them to hook her to the machines and take her with him. ‘How can I live without my Yossl, I don’t want to live, how can I?’ When one of us tried to console her by saying that she would be reunited with Johnny, she said, ‘What do you think I am? Stupid?’ We had to drag her out and I sat with my father and watched as his rate suddenly flattened to zero.

We played the songs to him, as I’ve said, but now without our Yossl, the song we will have to play is the one also sung by Connie Francis. It’s her other song, ‘My Yiddishe Mameh’ - my Mum who has literally walked in fier and vasser, crossed fire and water, for her children, Johnny and me. And in the day after while we waited in Surfers for my Dad to be taken home to Melbourne, my Mum, who has been begging for the heavens to open for her, showed strength. Between her cries of agony, she also chatted to us. She is blessed with gorgeous grandchildren who love her as they loved their Zaida, with great-grandchildren who no matter what make her smile, with a sister Sylvia who saw Yossl as a father and her kids Gid and Shelly, and she has always been blessed with daughters-in-law who have cared for her, Anita who has suffered so much and has loved and supported my parents since Johnny’s schooldays, Kerryn who was like a daughter to her after her own parents died, and Michelle who yesterday my mother asked to share with me. She made her instructions very clear about what she wants. I never would have imagined it but my Mum is now the head, the matriarch of the family. I feel so relieved to know that she still has a reserve of strength, though I know she will be more broken than ever.
There has always been a song my father would sing first for his two sons, then for each of his grandchildren, and now for his great-grandchildren. Life has a strange way of bringing beginnings and ends together. It’s now for us to sing it to him, our baby, our redeemer, our hero.

Shlof shoyn mir my, Yosseleh, mayn sheynshik
Di eygelekh, di shvartsinke, makh tsu,
A yingele vos hot shoyn ale tseyndelekh (!)
Muz nokh di Tate zingen, Ay Li Lu.
Lu Lu.


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For Kobe Bryant: 'Kobe, you’re heaven’s MVP', by Shaquille O'Neal - 2020

February 26, 2020

24 February 2020, Staples Center, Los Angeles, USA

Speaking to a group of people about Kobe Bryant- (silence).

…Forever. (Silence). Capri, and a loving son and brother. Kobe was a loyal friend and a true Renaissance man. As many of you know, Kobe and I had a very complex relationship throughout the years. But not unlike another leadership duo, John Lennon and Paul McCartney, whose creative rivalry led to some of the greatest music of all time. Kobe and I pushed one another to play some of the greatest basketball of all time and I am proud that no other team has accomplished what the three-peat Lakers have done since the Shaq and the Kobe Lakers did it.

And yeah, sometimes like immature kids we argued, we fought, we bantered or insulted each other with offhand remarks, our feuds. But make no mistake, even when folks thought we were on bad terms, when the cameras were turned off he and I would throw a wink at each other and say, “Let’s go whoop some ass.” He never took it seriously. In truth, Kobe and I always maintained a deep respect and a love for one another.


The day Kobe gained my respect was the guys were complaining. Said, “Shaq, Kobe’s not passing the ball.” I said, “I’ll talk to him.” I said, “Kobe, there’s no I in team.” And Kobe said, “I know, but there’s a ‘M-E’ in that motherfucker.” So I went back and told Rick and Big Shababasaid, “Just get the rebound, he’s not passing.”

Mamba, you were taken away from us way too soon. Your next chapter of life was just beginning. But now it’s time for us to continue your legacy. You said yourself that everything negative, pressure, challenges is all the opportunity for me to rise. So we now take that sage advice and now rise from anguish and begin with the healing. Just know that we’ve got your back, little brother. I’ll look after things down here. I’ll be sure to teach Natalia, Bianka, and baby Capri all your moves, and I promise I will not teach them my free throw techniques.

But for now, I take comfort in the fact as we speak, Kobe and Gigi are holding hands, walking to the nearest basketball court. Kobe will show her some new Mamba moves today and Gigi soon masters them. Kobe, you’re heaven’s MVP. I love you my man. Until we meet again. Rest in peace, brother.

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Kobe! Kobe! Kobe!

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For Kobe Bryant: 'In the game of life, Kobe left nothing in the tank', by Michael Jordan - 2020

February 26, 2020

24 February 2020, Staples Center, Los Angeles, USA

I would say, “Good morning,” but it’s afternoon. I’m grateful to Vanessa and the Bryant family for the opportunity to speak today. I’m grateful to be here to honor Gigi and celebrate the gift that Kobe gave us all. What he accomplished as a basketball player, as a businessman and a storyteller and as a father.

In the game of basketball, in life as a parent, Kobe left nothing in the tank. He left it all on the floor. Maybe it surprised people that Kobe and I were very close friends, but we were very close friends. Kobe was my dear friend. He was like a little brother.

Everyone always wanted to talk about the comparisons between he and I. I just wanted to talk about Kobe. All of us have brothers, sisters, little brothers, little sisters who, for whatever reason, always tend to get in your stuff. Your closet, your shoes, everything. It was a nuisance, if I can say that word. But that nuisance turned into love over a period of time just because the admiration that they had for you as big brothers or big sisters.

The questions, their wanting to know every little detail about life that they were about to embark on. He used to call me, text me 11:30, 2:30, 3:00 in the morning talking about post up moves, footwork, and sometimes the triangle. At first, it was an aggravation but then it turned into a certain passion.

This kid had passion like you would never know. It’s amazing thing about passion. If you love something, if you have a strong passion for something, you would go to the extreme to try to understand or try to get it. Either ice cream, Cokes, hamburgers, whatever you have a love for. If you have to walk, you would go get it. If you have to beg someone, you would go get it. What Kobe Bryant was to me was the inspiration that someone truly cared about the way either I played the game or the way that he wanted to play the game. He wanted to be the best basketball player that he could be.

And as I got to know him, I wanted to be the best big brother that I could be. To do that, you have to put up with the aggravation, the late night calls or the dumb questions. I took great pride as I got to know Kobe Bryant that he was just trying to be a better person, a better basketball player. We talked about business, we talked about family, we talked about everything. And he was just trying to be a better person.

Now he’s got me, I’ll have to look at another crying meme for the next… I told my wife I wasn’t going to do this because I didn’t want to see that for the next three or four years. That is what Kobe Bryant does to me. I’m pretty sure Vanessa and his friends all can say the same thing. He knows how to get to you in a way that affects you personally. Even if he’s being a pain in the ass, you always had a sense of love for him and the way that he can bring out the best in you. And he did that for me.

I remember maybe a couple of months ago, he sends me a text and he’s saying, “I’m trying to teach my daughter some moves and I don’t know what I was thinking or what I was working on. But what were you thinking about as you were growing up trying to work on your moves?” I said, “What age?” He says, “12.” I said, “12, I was trying to play baseball.” He sends me a text back saying, “Laughing my ass off.” And this was at 2:00 in the morning.

But the thing about him was we could talk about anything that related to basketball, but we can talk about anything that related to life. And we, as we grew up in life, rarely have friends that we can have conversations like that. Well, it’s even rarer when you can grow up against adversaries and have conversations like that.

I went and saw Phil Jackson in 1999 or maybe 2000, I don’t know. When Phil was here in LA and I walk in and Kobe’s sitting there. And I’m in a suit, the first thing Kobe said, “Did you bring your shoes?” No, I wasn’t thinking about playing. But his attitude to compete and play against someone he felt like he could enhance and improve his game with. Jimmy, that’s what I loved about the kid. Absolutely loved about the kid.

No matter where he saw me, it was a challenge and I admired him because his passion, you rarely see someone who’s looking and trying to improve each and every day. And not just in sports, but as a parent, as a husband, I am inspired by what he’s done and what he shared with Vanessa and what he’s shared with his kids.

I have a daughter who is 30, I just became a grandparent and I have two twins. I have twins at six. I can’t wait to get home to become a girl dad and to hug them and to see the love and the smiles that they bring to us as parents. He taught me that just by looking at this tonight, looking at how he responded and reacted with the people that he actually loved. These are the things that we will continue to learn from Kobe Bryant.

To Vanessa, Natalia, Bianka, Capri, my wife and I will keep you close in our hearts and our prayers. We will always be here for you, always. I also want to offer our condolences and support to all the families affected by this enormous tragedy.

Kobe gave every last ounce of himself to whatever he was doing after basketball, he showed a creative side to himself that I didn’t think any of us knew he had. In retirement, he seemed so happy. He found new passions and he continued to give back as a coach in his community.

More importantly, he was an amazing dad, amazing husband who dedicated himself to his family and who loved his daughters with all his heart. Kobe never left anything on the court and I think that’s what he would want for us to do.

No one knows how much time we have. That’s why we must live in the moment. We must enjoy the moment. We must reach and see and spend as much time as we can with our families and friends and the people that we absolutely love. To live in the moment means to enjoy each and every one that we come in contact with.

When Kobe Bryant died, a piece of me died. And as I look in this arena and across the globe, a piece of you died, or else you wouldn’t be here. Those are the memories that we have to live with and we learn from. I promise you, from this day forward, I will live with the memories of knowing [inaudible 02:15:01] little brother that I tried to help in every way I could. Please rest in peace, little brother.

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For Betty Curthbert: 'Today, we honour you with the same depth of emotion as we have loved you', by Alan Jones - 2017

February 25, 2020

21 August 2017, Sydney Cricket Ground, Sydney, Australia

There is a crushing reminder of our own mortality in being here today to honour and remember the unyieldingly great Betty Cuthbert, AM.MBE.

Four Olympic gold medals, one Commonwealth Games gold medal, two silver medals, 16 world records. The 1964 Helms World Trophy for Outstanding Athlete of the Year in all amateur sports in Australia. And it’s entirely appropriate that this formal and official farewell, sponsored by the State Government of New South Wales, should be taking place in this sporting theatre, which Betty adorned and indeed astonished in equal measure. It was here that in preparation for the Cardiff Empire Games in 1958 and the Rome Olympics in 1960, as the Games were being held in the Northern Hemisphere, out of season for Australian athletes, that winter competition was arranged to bring them to their peak. Races were put on here at the Sydney Cricket Ground at half time during a rugby league game. And it was in July 1978, as Betty was suffering significantly, but not publicly, from multiple sclerosis, that the government of New South Wales invited Betty Cuthbert to become the first woman member of the Sydney Cricket Ground Trust. Of course, in the years since that appointment, as Betty herself acknowledged, her road became often rocky and steep.

She once talked about the pitfalls, the craters and the hurdles.

But along the way, she found many revival points. She once said, just like the marathon runners who grab a drink to keep their energy from being depleted, the nourishment that she found always lay in the knowledge that she gained along the way which she was able to use at later points in her life. The cups holding that nourishment were many things –the support of caring people, the comfort of animals and the natural world, the inspiration of others running their own gruelling races and what she described as the love of a heavenly father. I suppose it is only in recent times that the wider public’s attention has been drawn to the fact that Betty is a twin, born 20 minutes before Marie arrived on the scene.20 April,1938.She was one and a half pounds smaller than Marie, describing herself as a skinny little thing with long arms and legs. The nurse who looked after the births of the two girls nicknamed Betty, ‘The Spider’. Of the third and fourth children in the Cuthbert family –John was four years older and Jean was six years older. Betty always saw herself simply as an ordinary girl from the suburbs, originally of Merrylands, rising to do extraordinary things.

Nothing ostentatious or pretentious about Betty. When she was young, Dad worked nearby in a factory and at home grew and sold cut flowers and a few vegetables to help with the income. They were hard times, ahead of the war, and every penny counted. But when Betty was five, the family shifted to Ermington and Betty’s father expanded his little nursery and finally left the factory and became a full time nurseryman. Betty was a gangling five year old and started at the Ermington Primary School with Marie. She always called Marie, ‘Midge’. The only running Betty had ever done was at picnic carnivals. It wasn’t until she was eight that she had her first proper race. It was at the school’s sports carnival. She wore an old-fashioned long tunic and ran in bare feet, like all the other girls, and she won the 50 and 75 yards races. She had a try at the high jump and she won that as well

Like all kids then, and even today, that resulted in her going to the district primary schools’ athletic meeting and she won the two sprint events and the high jump. She then went to the New South Wales Combined Primary School Championships and, as she said, in the high jump she was the first one eliminated. So she took the hint. But she made up for it later in the afternoon by winning the 50 and 75 yards finals and they were her first two State titles. She just loved running. She’d run to school in the morning. Tear around the playground during the morning and lunch breaks. Run home after school. And then run around the neighbourhood until tea. She played just about every sport there was at school –athletics, vigoro, basketball –but she liked running best of all. As she once said to me, Mum and Dad had never been good at sport, but John and Jean were school champions but never took any interest in it once they left school.

As she said ruefully, ‘Midge’ was good too, but always had to put up with me coming first. When Betty won her first trophy for being the champion girl athlete at the school, one of the neighbours said “That’s only the start of the collection. ”But never in Betty’s wildest dreams did she think she’d have the collection of trophies she eventually accumulated. Her father’s property covered four acres, including the house, and in those early days all the land around Ermington was open paddocks. Betty loved to get out there and run through the long grass. She felt as free as a bird. She hated being indoors. She was happy when she could fiddle in the garden. Her father gave her a few shillings a week for doing jobs like weeding and sweeping up. She would always say that while ‘Midge’, Marie, the twin, finished second to Betty most times in the races, it was ‘Midge’ who was boss. And ‘Midge’ looked after Betty.

Because then, and even through most of her life, Betty was quiet and often withdrawn. In those early years, she would close up like a clam whenever anybody spoke to her. She let ‘Midge’ do the talking. And Marie fought all her battles. When Betty left Ermington Primary School, just before she turned 13, she went with her twin, ‘Midge’, to Parramatta Home Science School. It was there that her life changed. She first met June Ferguson, the school’s physical education teacher and a former Olympian. June had competed in the relay and the long jump at the 1948 London Olympics and she was also the women’s coach of the Western Suburbs Athletics Club. Indeed, it was at her first athletics carnival at the Parramatta Home Science School that Betty won the 75 yards and 100 yards for 13 year olds that June Ferguson noticed her and asked Betty if she would like to join Wests, where June could coach her. Betty started straight away. It was only a short time after her joining Wests that that the Combined Home Science Schools Championships were held here at the Sydney Cricket Ground. And then the trials, Betty running in bare feet, to choose the New South Wales team to compete at the inaugural Australian School Boys’ and School Girls’ Athletics Championships in Tasmania.

In the trials, Betty equalled one record, she broke another, and her times were as good as those of the senior girls who were competing, even though some were three and four years older than she was. The trials were held on the lightening-fast grass track, adjacent to this sporting theatre, then called the Sydney Sports Ground. Betty’s world of track and field was beginning to take shape. She duly went to Hobart and won the Under 14 100 yards. June was boss. And, as Betty would say, her word was law. It was that same Wests Club that spawned two greats of Australian track and field, the remarkable Marlene Mathews and the hurdler Gloria Cooke. Gloria, a finalist in the Melbourne Olympics in 1956 in the hurdles, where we had three Australian girls in the final out of six.

Marlene and Betty were to become close friends, but deadly rivals. Season after season they fought it out and world record followed world record. June Ferguson pointed out to Betty early that while Betty knew nothing about the art of sprinting, she had one or two good points in her favour and one was the good high knee action and a long raking stride. And one other little thing –she always ran with her mouth wide open. This, of course, became a trademark. Many people, over the years, criticised Betty for this, saying it forced her to take in too much air and increased her wind resistance, but it didn’t seem to affect her performance too much. Betty was often asked if she ever caught flies in her mouth, but she once said that she trapped a few now and then, but a few flies and a handful of critics would not make her change what came naturally. She was 13 when she first started training seriously and worked out two nights a week for an hour and a half. It is extraordinary to note that when Betty came home from the Australian School Boys’ and School Girls’ Championships in Tasmania in 1951, she went straight into her first season of inter-club athletics and there started competing against Fleur Mellor, who, most sports writers thought, was going, eventually, to succeed Marjorie Jackson, ‘The Lithgow Flash’, as Australia’s champion woman sprinter.

Fleur was two years older than Betty, but they had some terrific battles. It was the 220 yards which Betty always favoured. And in that first inter-club season, Betty ran the 220 yards in 25.1 seconds, which was an Australian Junior record and the first time her name went into Australia’s record books. She left school relatively early and she and Marie went to work in a factory making baby clothes. They hated it. Marie, ‘Midge’, took a job as a dentist’s receptionist and stayed there until she was married. But Betty chose to work for her Dad, taking slips from shrubs and trees and sewing them into sand boxes. She also bred and sold budgerigars and she had a stack of goldfish. And she spent lots of free time at night making her own clothes.

Betty first, Christa Stubnick, a typist with the East German Police Force, was second and the great Marlene Mathews was third in both events. And then, of course, the controversy over the relay. The Australian team was Shirley Strickland, Norma Croker, Fleur Mellor and Betty. Marlene Mathews was omitted.44.9 seconds –gold and a world record. Oddly enough, just before the closing ceremony of the Melbourne Olympics, Betty flew home to Sydney to run in a match race between an American team and a composite team from the British Commonwealth countries and the Australian winning team from the Games. Strickland, Croker, Mellor and Cuthbert lowered the world 4x110 yards record to 45.6. And then Marlene replaced Shirley Strickland and they ran the 4x220 yards relay to set another world record. So when the New South Wales members of the team arrived at Kingston Smith Airport after the Olympics –the reception was astonishing. A few days later, the city of Parramatta gave Betty a reception, perched in a shining Rolls Royce, June Ferguson, the coach, sitting beside her and nearly 50,000 people were cheering.

Not long after the Games, Betty had a camellia named after her and she was depicted on a stamp in a commemorative series issued by, of all places, the Dominican Republic in the West Indies. One of eight showing winners of major events at the Games. Betty found all the attention very flattering, but she found it draining –she felt her identity was disappearing. She was no longer Betty Cuthbert the ordinary girl, but Betty Cuthbert the athlete. As she once said, many people would probably have wallowed in the limelight, but frankly, she loathed it. It is not that she did not appreciate what people did for her, she did. But she wished she could have been just one of the crowd, watching someone else up on that official platform. Betty was an Olympic champion before being a champion of her own state. But it was back to the inter-club championships of 1957 and 1958 and at the State titles in 1958, Betty equalled Marjorie Jackson’s world record for 100 yards of 10.4.A week later, she ran the 220 yards in 23.5, to lower her own world record.

She had now broken four world records in the space of four weeks and held every world sprint record in 1958, except the 100 metres .Yet such was the nature of the talent amongst Australian women that a couple of months later in the Australian Championships in March 1958, Marlene wiped out two of Betty’s world records in the space of 48 hours –10.3 and 23.4 –and Betty was a few feet behind. The 1958 Empire Games, as they were called, at Cardiff, were a disappointment for Betty. It was just after that when Herb Elliot, Betty Cuthbert and her coach June Ferguson made a trip through Europe. Betty ran in Oslo and won the 100 and the 200, but then went to Gutenberg in Germany, where she was persuaded to run in the 400 metres, because it was the only event on the program for women. It was the first time Betty had ever run the distance –she had not trained for it –and she ran 54.4 seconds, which was the fastest time in the world.1958. Rome in 1960 was something of a disaster. Betty missed a lot of competition with injury and in the quarter finals of the 100 metres, the hamstring played up again and Betty was eliminated.

Doctors wanted her to pull out of the 200 in Rome. She kept talking until they agreed she could warm up. But on the morning of the heats, she quickened up on a couple of run-throughs, the pain came back and the Rome Olympics were over for Betty Cuthbert. Scratched from the 200 metres and the relay. She wrote at that time, “I hated being a public figure to be looked at, talked about and pointed out every time I stepped outside my own front door. I have been secretly nursing that hatred for four long years, ever since my wins in the Melbourne Games. Few knew how I felt. I’d never whispered a word to anybody but my family and closest friends, but it finally became unbearable. There were few places I could go without people recognising me, wanting to touch me, shake my hand or get my autograph. It got to the point where I didn’t want to go out. I realised that being a successful athlete went hand-in-hand with being a public figure, but how I wished it hadn’t. I wanted to become just an ordinary girl like ‘Midge’.”

So Betty conferred with June Ferguson and told her that she was going to retire after Rome. One afternoon, about 14 months after she retired, Betty was working at her nursery when it suddenly occurred to her that she might need to take up athletics again. She could not get it out of her mind. She said there was a voice in her head that kept saying, over and over, run again, run again, run again. She fought the voice for two months and said “Eventually I could not sleep at night. I realised it was more than just an idea. Somehow I knew it was God speaking to me. One night in my bedroom, the voice said ‘run again’ and this time I surrendered. ‘Okay, you win’, I said, ‘I’ll run again.’” From that point until she retired in Tokyo in 1964, she was never happier in the sport. The long trek back began in 1962. And this is an aspect of Betty Cuthbert’s achievements that has never been alluded to.

Obviously, she had been out of competition for some time. Many people believed she could not come back. The Australian Championships had already been held. Marlene had retired after Rome, others had drifted out of the sport, there was a whole flock of new girls and Betty was trying to qualify for Perth in 1962 and on a very wet track. At the Commonwealth Games selection trials, Betty put paid to the notion that they never come back by winning the 100 and coming second in the 220 yards. And she left for Perth, hoping for her first Commonwealth Games success, following the disappointments of Cardiff. But she found Perth like an oven. She talked about winds like blast furnaces, blowing in off the Nullabor Plain. When the Duke of Edinburgh opened the Games on 22 November 1962, the thermometer was over 32 degrees in the shade, 39.8 at noon two days later. When Betty ran the heats and semi-finals of the 100, on the floor of the stadium it was 65 degrees. Betty failed.

In the semi-finals, she beat only one girl home in the 100, running no faster than she had run at school. She made it to the final of the 220 yards, but came fifth. All sorts of reasons were volunteered, but what is forgotten in all of this was the women’s 4x110 yards relay. Betty wanted to withdraw from the team, fearing she would let the girls down. The relay was on the last day of the Games –England was the team to beat. And by the time the second change was made, England were well clear. By the time the last English runner, Betty Moore, took the baton, England were five metres in front of Australia and Cuthbert set off. I remember, clearly, the call of Oliver Drake-Brockman. After all, Betty Cuthbert had failed in the sprints and it was a foregone conclusion that Betty Moore would run away with the gold medal. And suddenly Drake-Brockman called “Here comes Cuthbert...”.And with every stride, the old Cuthbert swung into action and she gathered Betty Moore up, metres away from the line, then shoulder to shoulder, then one last desperate kick by Cuthbert and Australia had won the gold. I rank it as one of the greatest relay legs ever run by an Australian athlete. Perth in 1962 and 40,000 at the stadium cheered and clapped for minutes after the race was over. In spite of the disappointments in the 100 and the 200, she had no intention of retiring. And then, in 1963, at a holiday resort near Newcastle, Lake Lodge, with June and Jack Ferguson, June, the coach, June bluntly said to Betty, you’re going to run the 440 yards when we go back. At that point, the event wasn’t even on the Olympic program. Betty went back to inter-club, adding the 440 yards to the 100 and 220 yards. So at the New South Wales Championships in 1963, Betty Cuthbert, won the 440 yards in 54.7 –a respectable time today. And then she won the 100 and 220 yards and I don’t think any woman or man has ever won the 100, 200 and 400 at the state titles. By that stage, the great Dixie Willis from Western Australia was the opposition and Judy Amoore, later to become Judy Pollock from Victoria.
Betty was invited to run in the Moomba Festival in Melbourne. The organisers wanted her to run in the 100 yards and the 440 yards. She wanted as many runs under her belt as she could get. It is 1963, the year before Tokyo. Judy and Dixie were in the 400 and all of them had times around about the 54 second mark. The world record was 53.7.Dixie was a magnificent 800 metres and 880 yards runner and the holder of both world records. Betty won the 100 in 10.7.The 440 yards was an hour later. The great Cuthbert put paid to both Dixie Willis and Judy Amoore and though her legs felt like jelly at the finish, she heard the announcement that she’d broken two world records –the 400 metres in 53.1 and then the 440 yards, which is a little bit longer, in 53.5.Two world records. And that took her off to the Australian Championships in 1963.

And in the 440 yards final, Dixie and Betty hit the line, as the commentators say, locked together.53.3 seconds –knocking two-tenths of a second off the world record Betty had set 11 days before. She had set three world records in two successive races. Of course, Tokyo in 1964 we know, but not the full story. Betty had an awful foot injury and she could not compete for months. Everything looked desperate, until she ran into a Bondi chiropodist, John Nolan. He diagnosed the pain that she’d endured for months and months and which responded to nobody, as a bone out of joint in her foot. Betty couldn’t believe it, but Nolan worked wonders. And in 1964, on 2 October, she was off to Tokyo. The first time ever the 400 metres for women had been included in the Olympics –and it was a red-hot field, dominated, so the critics said, by the British runner, Ann Packer and, of course, the Australian, Judy Amoore. Dixie was only contesting the 800 metres.

Ann Packer ran 52.7 in the semi-finals and the world believed they were watching the inaugural champion. But as Betty said, when the final came, it was the race in which she ran out of athletics and into history. Even though Betty had broken the world record 18 months before the Tokyo Olympics, her performances going in to Tokyo had not been startling. The newspaper critics hardly gave her a mention when discussing prospects for the gold medal. And Ann Packer, the British 400 and 800 metre runner was a red-hot favourite. Luckily, Betty had Judy Amoore, her teammate, on the outside. And in Lane 6, further out, Ann Packer. There was a wind down the back, which means there was a wind against them in the home straight. And Betty turned slightly in front of Ann Packer. She described the wind as “like an invisible hand pushing against me”. Her legs got heavier as the line edged closer. She felt Packer right on her heels, but knew she must have been just as tired as Betty was.

And Betty was not going to be the first to give in. Astride from the tape, Betty knew she’d won. The fastest time she’d ever run for the distance and only a tenth of a second outside the world record.52.1 seconds. Betty said, subsequently “That short space of time sealed my fate in athletics. After 13 years of running, it was all over. I’d made up my mind that if I won, I would never run again.” As she said, athletics had helped turn her from a shy, uncertain school girl into a confident, responsible woman. And through athletics, she’d learned to accept defeat as easily as victory and to face up to problems and challenges instead of turning from them. Betty tried many things after track and field, including fostering the belief that coaching young children and encouraging fitness amongst women were important goals. She started fitness classes for women at the Harbord Diggers Club, near Manly, and drove about 17 miles to attend the classes three times a week. The challenge of getting people into good health.

Betty tried coaching and, in fact, one of her athletes made the Commonwealth Games in Edinburgh in 1970, but I remember Betty telling me how disappointed she felt that the athlete did not share the same commitment as the coach. Betty said at the time that she couldn’t bring herself to coach anybody as wholeheartedly as she had coached this young girl. Basically, it was not for her. But it was in Edinburgh at those Games that she felt, in her words, that “something was not quite right with my health.” She felt tired, almost exhausted. She once said that multiple sclerosis is like a dark shadow that crosses your path on a warm sunny day and then moves away again. At first, you hardly notice it –it doesn’t cause immediate change in your life, but is far more subtle. it is almost impossible to say at exactly what moment it manifests itself in a person. She thought her tiredness at the beach was due to the heat –she said nothing. it was the first unexplained thing that had happened to her. Earlier, in 1969, she noticed a tingling in her hands –she was 31.

A pins and needles sensation if she walked any distance. Those sensations occurred in her legs and her feet. One day, after working in the nursery, she tried to clean her fingernails with a nail file –she got the pins and needles feeling. There was no explanation for unrelated feelings in her body. Then, before long, she was feeling tired all the time. And eventually the list of symptoms became too big to ignore. She wanted to deny the whole thing and believe it would go away of its own accord, but the warning signs were too insistent. She made the unpleasant trip to the doctor. The first doctor told her it was either glandular fever or rubella, German measles. With her long-standing interest in natural health methods, she thought she might be able to cure the symptoms herself. But they remained and became even more disturbing. She couldn’t catch or hold a medicine ball thrown at her during a fitness class. In one test, she was asked to bring her index fingers together in front of her body –she couldn’t.

Test followed test. Doctors prescribed Vitamin B12.She continued to work, was interested in the sporting world and sporting goods and got a job with Adidas. Indeed, she went to the Munich Olympics in 1972 as part of the company’s international promotions team. By 1973 she felt relatively free from the M.S. symptoms. And so the dilemma continued. It was a silent disease –very few spoke the truth to Betty and she told very few about how she really felt. She actually discovered that her GP, her neuro-physician, whom she saw in 1969 and the eye specialist, because she had trouble with her vision, suspected she had M.S. but no-one told her. There was a wall of silence from the medical profession. M.S. is a notoriously hard disease to diagnose and there are no easy answers for a physician when he or she must decide whether or not to tell the patient. Betty left Adidas and the great Ron Clarke offered her a job with Le Coq Sportif to open a branch office in New South Wales.

The tasks included taking orders for garments and setting up new outlets. But her back, and then her right leg, started playing up and she knew something serious was wrong, but she wouldn’t let on to anybody that she was ill. In 1978, the organisers of the annual Walk Against Want asked Betty to participate in their walkathon. She thought it was a great idea. But the day was hotter than usual. After three kilometres, her back started to ache and she felt uncomfortable but kept going. Then her right leg began to kick out and she had to quit. Multiple sclerosis is such, and Betty learnt this, that sufferers in remission must always do things in moderation. Betty had gone past her safety point. So at this time, May 1978, Betty was 40 and she knew that something seriously was wrong. She started attending Marrickville Hospital for acupuncture treatment twice a week –it did little to relieve the symptoms.

Then Betty was rung by the Reverend Graham Hardy of St Stephen’s Uniting Church in Macquarie Street, asking Betty if she would read the lesson at a lunchtime service. She was introduced to the congregation. She wondered whether he suspected her illness. But she read the bible’s words on the race of life from 1Corinthians 9:24-27-“Do you not know that in a race, all the runners compete, but only one receives the prize. So run that you may obtain it. Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath. But we are imperishable. Well, I do not run aimlessly, I do not box as one beating the air, but I pummel my body and subdue it, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified. ”Betty found that immensely relevant. She wasn’t running aimlessly, but she didn’t quite know when the race would end. The Reverend Hardy then preached a sermon on disappointment, which, as he told the congregation, could make you either bitter or better. And arguing that there are always reasons for disappointment in life. When it happens, he said, God opens the windows and presents solutions from a different viewpoint.

Betty felt the words had been chosen specifically for her. It was at this time that Betty received an invitation from the New South Wales government to become the first woman member of the Sydney Cricket Ground Trust, where she served from 1978 to 1980.She was struggling, albeit full of determination. The years became a continuing story of hope and frustration, of effort and sorrow. Of people coming into her life to help her and of the uncontrollable emotions that raged within her. Sometimes, her faith was stretched to the limit. When it finally became clear that she could no longer remain in the work force, she applied for a government invalid pension. At 41 years of age, she found it a bitter bill to swallow. But even more bitter was the discovery that applying for the pension involved an interview process that she considered invasive, humiliating and degrading. She would say that after trying to be a good ambassador for Australia for so many years, she felt as though she had been tossed on the scrap heap.

The Department of Social Security had investigated her and found that the interest from her bank savings was beyond what was permitted under their rules. Fortunately, public outrage rectified the situation, but no-one of her standing, or any standing, should have been treated in this way. Yet happiness and goodness followed. She found respite and relief when she moved to Lismore. She loved the animals, she loved the space, she loved the silence and she loved the privacy. She found being a public person very difficult. Of Lismore, she said she wasn’t devoid of friendship, she had neighbours across the road and down the road and they helped her with washing and ironing. The world knew she was suffering from multiple sclerosis and while she found public knowledge of that difficult, she was forever optimistic about the future. She was often asked what it was like to have M.S. and she had three pictures which captured the feeling, one of which was the rose. She said imagine a bright and healthy rose in your garden in the morning light, sparkling with fine, misty dew.

Pick that rose and carry it inside your house, put it in a vase without water and leave it to wilt. Sometimes M.S. is like that. Faith had always been an important part of Betty’s life, even though she wasn’t religious and even though she wasn’t a regular church-goer. But she said what she went through in those days leading up to Tokyo taught her a lesson that she never forgot. Each set-back had a specific meaning. She said it showed her that no matter how awful something is at the moment, good can come of it. And she determined after Tokyo she would never lose faith again. Through the dark and desperate days when multiple sclerosis was a sinister but unknown shadow across her life, she held on to God. It was partly, she said, because of the faith that life is good, however much adverse circumstances seemed to say the opposite. And if she hadn’t had that faith, she used to say, I don’t know what I would have slipped in to. “If I hadn’t had anything to believe in, I would have had nothing.”

Betty would say that she’d talk to God every day about so many things –He was there to thank and to believe in and to hope for and to ask things of. She said in one way, it was like having a mother you could always go and talk to. Of her Mum, she said “She’d never let me down. She’d gone through everything with me emotionally and provided me with the greatest possible support at all times.” Betty said “There was a deep, invisible bond between us, based on love and trust.” And God was the same. Betty once wrote “Having Him there to listen to me was more important than I could express.” On one day, Wednesday 1 May 1985, Betty changed direction. She had been nominated for an award as Single of the Year and she had won it. Reverend Gordon Moyes came to Lismore to speak at the Town Hall. Betty thought she would go along. At the end, he invited people who wanted to become Christians to go out the front and Betty thought I’m already a Christian...so that is not for me.

Reverend Moyes issued a second invitation and added “There are some private practicing Christians here” and the words had a remarkable effect on Betty. She started to tremble, she said her heart started to thump, she said she knew she had to go forward. And when she did, the Reverend Moyes prayed for her. She said she didn’t understand what it meant, but she realised that she had been “born again”. She had no idea, this was 1985, Betty was47, and she had no idea what the phrase meant. She thought it was a cliché in the wider world. A straight-forward description of something rather wonderful. But, as she said, the phrase came from the bible, where Jesus says “I tell you the truth, no-one can see the Kingdom of God unless he is born again.” She said in all her 47 years, she had never heard such a thing before. Pieces, for her, started to fall into place. She said it was better than winning four gold medals –“To be born again is the best medal anyone can ever get. And you don’t have to train for it.”

She often spoke of an old story to prove what she believed was God’s joy at saving people. The story went “What do you think, if a man has 100 sheep and one of them has gone astray, does he not leave the 99 on the hills and go in search of the one that went astray. And if he finds it, truly, I say to you, he rejoices over it more than the 99 that never went astray. So it is not the will of your Father who is in heaven that one of these little ones should perish. ”From Matthew 18, Verses 12-14. It was during this period in Lismore that, yet again, Betty felt that change was upon her. She had visited a small Pentecostal church in Lismore. One of her Sydney friends, Dixie Treharne, the wife of the yachtsman Hugh Treharne, asked Betty if she would accompany Dixie to Perth for the opening of a Pentecostal church over there called Rhema Family Church. Betty had the same kind of urge to go that she had when she moved from Sydney to Lismore. She met Margaret Court, one of the greatest tennis players the world has seen, who was involved with the Pentecostal church.

Betty came back home to Sydney and told her Mum and her family this was something she wanted to do, to go to W.A. The multiple sclerosis now had many manifestations. She had difficulty writing –the muscles in her right hand and fingers were no longer up to the task and it required an extreme effort to hold a pen and scratch a few barely-legible words onto the paper. In 1991, Margaret Court announced she was going to establish Margaret Court Ministries for the purpose of fulfilling what she believed was God’s call on her life to preach the gospel. And Margaret began holding meetings in halls, community centres and other public buildings around Perth. Sometimes, Betty went along and one night she was sitting by the book sales table when a woman about her age came up and introduced herself as Rhonda Gillam. Betty remembered the name, because a friend had told her some 12 months earlier that this was a person who would like to meet her. Rhonda and her husband Keith lived in Mandurah. Betty had bought a little place in Perth. Rhonda explained that Keith was away at a golf tournament and would Betty like to stay with her for the weekend.

Betty agreed. And so this remarkable friendship began. Betty said “When I found Rhonda, I found a special friend. One with all the same interests that I had. And I felt like her family was my family too.” So Betty moved to Mandurah in 1991, straight into a little unit which she bought with the proceeds from the sale of her place in Como, Perth, a minute and a half around the corner from where Rhonda and Keith lived. A new phase in her life was beginning on other fronts. She accepted an invitation to fly to Sydney to name a new three million dollar commuter catamaran “The Betty Cuthbert”, to sail up and down the Parramatta River every day, right past Betty’s old house in Drummoyne. It was the first time the public had seen Betty in a wheelchair and it was a shock. Daily life, by now, was absorbing most of her energy. She was grateful for the strength and dedication that Rhonda put into looking after her. Then a letter arrived, inviting Betty to Melbourne for the Australian Sports Hall of Fame Champions Dinner. She asked Rhonda to write back saying she couldn’t.

The invitation followed a dreadful mini-tornado in Mandurah, which smashed the block of units in which Betty was living. Her little unit was a tangled mess of bricks and wood and smashed furniture and glass, but amazingly, but not to Betty, none of the memorabilia was destroyed. None of her personal belongings, even though the little garden shed out the back was blown so far away it was never found. It was the same day that it was announced that Sydney had won the 2000 Olympic Games. Damage was assessed, insurance claims were made and Betty’s unit was redesigned and rebuilt with many improvements to help her with her new living, including passages wide enough for her scooter to go right through to the bedroom. So she was off to Melbourne. It was a gala night. Dawn Fraser was there, along with Judy Patching, Julius Patching, who was the starter for all of Betty’s races at the 1956 Olympics, and she discovered that the purpose of the night was to induct Betty as a Living Legend of the Hall of Fame. Betty had no inkling it was happening. As they were starting dessert, the MC uttered Betty’s name, a spotlight came upon her and 700 people burst into applause.

Someone grabbed the wheelchair and pushed Betty up onto the stage and for the next 30 minutes she sat there in tears as they said beautiful things about her. I remember in 1996, that remarkably generous man, John Singleton, joined with a few of us to raise money, a virtual testimonial lunch, for Betty and almost $300,000 was raised. Betty was immensely grateful and after consultation with many whom you should be able to trust, bought a block of land at Mandurah, with gum trees and a dam. She wanted to share with others what she was able to provide. Then, a “client” arrived on the scene, interested in looking at property. He was charming company, said he was a born-again Christian, told his story. He appeared sincere and enthusiastic and shared Betty’s dream of helping others. Betty had people check the bloke out, but it was all happening in a whirlwind. He proposed setting up a trust fund to raise money to finance her plans for the block of land. A Perth barrister was involved.

The bloke came every day to her home. Then he said he had come across a clothing business that had collapsed and had bought it for next to nothing, so they should invest in that. And so the story went on. And the bills started arriving. And the bloke disappeared. And Betty and Rhonda were left in very significant debt. Betty subsequently found that when this fellow was speaking to influential people on his mobile phone in her presence, he’d actually been speaking to no-one. Nonetheless, Betty often remembered the verse from Matthew in the bible “Everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or lands for my name’s sake will receive a hundred fold and inherit eternal life.” Betty felt, in spite of multiple sclerosis, that is what happened to her. Then, Sydney won the Olympic Games and Rupert Murdoch’s NewsCorp invited Betty, Rhonda and Keith to attend the Games as their special guests. There was much speculation as to whether Betty would light the cauldron.

All sorts of names were volunteered – Murray Rose, Herb Elliot, Marjorie Jackson, Shirley Strickland, Dawn Fraser –but it is part of the Olympic tradition to keep people guessing. And so it was, on this occasion, in 2000, when the night arrived and the announcer said “Ladies and gentlemen, celebrating 100 years of women’s participation in the Olympic Games, the Olympic Flame, carried by Betty Cuthbert and Raelene Boyle” and the crowd erupted. Raelene started to push Betty around the running track, followed by the next runner, who was Dawn, then to Shirley Strickland, to Shane Gould, to Debbie Flintoff-King and then to the remarkable Catherine Freeman, waiting at the foot of the huge podium. When Betty returned to Mandurah to her home, fan mail increased. She lived one day at a time, under the extraordinary care of Rhonda. And here we are today with a crushing reminder of our own mortality, as we honour the great Betty Cuthbert. It is hard to believe and yet we are here to celebrate, not to grieve. The source of the celebration is simple. Betty would not want us celebrating the gold medals, she would want us to celebrate the journey in which she found, through adversity, a deep faith.

And she would want us to celebrate that in death, as in life, that faith will guide us to the appropriate destination. Betty would want her example not just to inspire those to be quick runners if they have a natural talent, but rather to inspire those who have a struggle in life to find the courage to keep going with what you have and to never give up hope. Betty read often the verse by Frances Ridley Havergal –a 19thcentury poet, who wrote:

“Take my life and let it be
Consecrated, Lord, to Thee.
Take my moments and my days,
Let them flow in ceaseless praise.
Take my hands, and let them move
At the impulse of Thy love;
Take my feet, and let them be
Swift and beautiful for Thee.
Take my silver and my gold,
Not a mite would I withhold;
Take my intellect, and use
Every pow’r as Thou shalt choose.”

Betty Cuthbert. Today, we honour you with the same depth of emotion as we have loved you.
And that will be forever.

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For Kobe & Gianna Bryant: 'Babe, you take care of our Gigi', by Vanessa Bryant - 2020

February 25, 2020

24 February 2020, Staples Center, Los Angeles, USA

Vanessa Bryant spoke movingly about her husband, Kobe, and daughter, Gianna, Monday at the Staples Center in Los Angeles.

Thank you. Thank you all so much for being here. It means so much to us. First, I’d like to thank everyone for coming today.

The outpouring of love and support that my family has felt from around the world has been so uplifting. Thank you so much for all your prayers.

I’d like to talk about both Kobe and Gigi but I’ll start with my baby girl first.

My baby girl — Gianna Bryant is an amazingly sweet and gentle soul. She was always thoughtful. She always would kissed me goodnight, kissed me good morning. There were a few occasions where I was absolutely tired from being up with Bianca and Capri and I thought she had left school without saying goodbye. I'd text and say 'no kiss?' And Giana would reply with 'Mama, I kissed you but you were asleep, and I didn’t want to wake you.'

She knew how much her morning and evening kisses meant to me, and she was so thoughtful to remember to kiss me every day.

She was daddy’s girl, but I know she loved her mama. And she would always tell me and show me how much she loved me. She was one of my very best friends. She loved to bake. She loved putting a smile on everyone’s face.

Last August, she made a beautiful birthday cake for her daddy. It had fondant and looked like it had blue agate crystals. Kobe’s birthday cake looked like it was professionally decorated. She made the best chocolate chip cookies. She loved watching cooking shows and "Cupcake Wars" with me, and she loved watching "Survivor" and NBA games on TV with her daddy. She also loved watching Disney movies with her sisters.

GiGi was very competitive, like her daddy. But Gianna had a sweet grace about her. Her smile was like sunshine. Her smile took up her entire face, like mine. Kobe always said she was me.

She had my fire, my personality and sarcasm. She was tender and loving on the inside. She had the best laugh, it was infectious. It was pure and genuine.

Kobe and Gianna naturally gravitated towards each other. She had Kobe’s ability to listen to a song and have all the lyrics memorized after listening to the song a couple of times; it was their secret talent.

She was an incredible athlete. She was great at gymnastics, soccer, softball, dance and basketball. She was incredible dancer too. She loved to swim, dance, do cartwheels and jumps into our swimming pool and GiGi loved her TikTok dances.

GiGi was confident, but not in an arrogant way. She loved helping and teaching other people things at school she offered the boys' basketball coaches to help give the boys' basketball team some pointers, like the triangle offense.

She was very much like her daddy, in that they both liked helping people learn new things and master them. They were great teachers. Gigi was very sweet. She always made sure everyone was okay. She was our shepherd. She always kept our family together. She loved family traditions; family movie night and game night on vacations were important to her.

Gigi always looked out for everyone. She was very much in tune with our feelings and wanted the best for us. Gianna was smart. She knew how to read, speak and write Mandarin. She knew Spanish. She had great grades and kept them up, all while becoming an incredible basketball player.

She was president of school spirit, on student council. She was directors assistant for her school play, just like her big sister. She was looking forward to graduating eighth grade and moving on to high school with her big sister Natalia. I’m so happy she was given the opportunity to know that she was accepted to the same high school, she was really happy.

Gianna made us all proud, and she still does.

Gianna never tried to conform. She was always herself. She was a nice person, a leader, a teacher, wearing a white T, black leggings, a denim jacket, white high-top Converse, and a flannel tied around her waist with straight hair was her go-to style.

She has so much swag and rhythm ever since she was a baby. She gave the best hugs and the best kisses. She had gorgeous soft lips like her daddy. She would hug me and hold me so tight.

I could feel her love me. I loved the way she looked up at me while hugging me. It was as if she was soaking me all in. We love each other so much. I miss her so much.

She was so energetic. I couldn't keep up with her energy. She lapped Natalia and I on a track once. She was about 6 years old. We let her have a head start. She still bested us.

I miss her sweet kisses, I miss her cleverness, I miss her sarcasm, her wit, and that adorable sly side smile followed with a grin and a burst of laughter. We shared the same cat-that-ate-the-canary grin.

Gigi was sunshine. She brightened up my day every day. I miss looking at her beautiful face. She was always so good, a rule follower. I knew I could always count on her to do the right thing.

She was the most loving daughter, thoughtful little sister, and silly big sister. She happily helped carry the little's diaper bag or played with them. She liked helping me with Bianca and Capri. Bianca loved going to the playground, swimming and jumping on the trampoline with Gigi.

I used to tell Gigi, CoCo considered her favorite sister. Capri would smile from ear to hear when Gigi walked into the room, and Capri reminds me a lot of Gianna; they look alike and just smile with their whole face, pure joy.

We will not be able to see Gigi go to high school with Natalia and ask her how her day went. We didn't get the chance to teach her how to drive a car. I won't be able to tell her how gorgeous she looks on her wedding day. I'll never get to see my baby girl walk down the aisle, have a father-daughter dance with her daddy, dance on the dance floor with me or have babies of her own.

Gianna would have been an amazing mommy. She was very maternal ever since she was really little.

Gigi would have most likely become the best player in the WNBA. She would have made a huge difference. She would have made a huge difference for women's basketball. Gigi was motivated to change the way everyone viewed women in sports.

She wrote papers in school defending women and wrote about how the unequal pay difference for the NBA and WNBA leagues wasn't fair. And I truly feel she made positive changes for the WNBA players now, since they knew Gigi's goal was to eventually play in the WNBA.

I'm still so proud of Gianna. She made a difference and was kind to everyone she met in the 13 years she was here on Earth. Her classmates shared many fond memories about Gianna with us and those stories reminded me that Gianna loved and showed everyone that no act of kindness is ever too small to make a difference in someone's life.

She was always, always, always, considerate of others and their feelings. She was a beautiful, kind, happy, silly, thoughtful and loving daughter and sister. She was so full of life and had so much more to offer this world. I cannot imagine life without her.

Mommy, Natalia, Bianca, Capri and daddy love you so much, Gigi. I will miss your sweet handmade cards, your sweet kisses, and your gorgeous smile. I miss you, all of you, every day. I love you.

Kobe was known as a fierce competitor on the basketball court. The greatest of all time, a writer, an Oscar winner, and the Black Mamba. But to me, he was Kobe-Kobe, my boo-boo, my bae-boo, my Papi Chulo. I was his Vivi, his principessa, his reina, his queen MambaI couldn't see him as a celebrity, nor just an incredible basketball player.

He was my sweet husband, and the beautiful father of our children. He was mine. He was my everything. Kobe and I have been together since I was 17 and a half years old. I was his first girlfriend, his first love, his wife, his best friend, his confidant and his protector.

He was the most amazing husband. Kobe loved me more than I could ever express or put into words. He was an early bird and I was a night owl. I was fire and he was ice and vice versa at times. We balanced each other out.

He would do anything for me. I have no idea how I deserved a man that loved and wanted me more than Kobe. He was charismatic, a gentleman, he was loving, adoring and romantic. He was truly the romantic one in our relationship and looked forward to Valentine's days and our anniversaries every year. He planned special anniversary trips and a special traditional gift for every year of our marriage. He even handmade my most treasured gifts.

He just thought outside the box and was so thoughtful, even while working hard to be the best athlete. He gifted me the actual notebook and the blue dress Rachel McAdams wore in "The Notebook" movie. When I asked him why he chose the blue dress, he said it was because it's a scene when Ally comes back to Noah.

We had hoped to grow old together like the movie. We really had an amazing love story. We loved each other with our whole beings — two perfectly imperfect people, making a beautiful family, and raising our sweet and amazing girls.

A couple weeks before they passed, Kobe sent me a sweet text and mentioned how he wanted to spend time together; just the two of us without our kids, because I'm his best friend first. We never got the chance to do it. We were busy taking care of our girls and just doing our regular, everyday responsibilities. But I'm thankful I have that recent text. It means so much to me.

Kobe wanted us to renew our vows. He wanted Natalia to take over his company, and he wanted to travel the world together. We had always talked about how we'd be the fun grandparents to our daughters' children. He would have been the coolest grandpa. Kobe was the MVP of girl dads, or MVD.

He never left the toilet seat up. He always told the girls how beautiful and smart they are. He taught them how to be brave and how to keep pushing forward when things get tough. And when Kobe retired from the NBA, he took over dropping off and picking up our girls from school, since I was at home pregnant with Bianca and just recently home nursing Capri.

When Kobe was still playing, I used to show up an hour early to be the first in line to pick up Natalia and Gianna from school, and I told him he couldn't drop the ball once he took over. He was late one time, and we most definitely let him know that I was never late. So we showed up 1 hour and 20 minutes early after that.

He always knew there was room for improvement and wanted to do better. He happily did carpool and enjoyed spending time in the car with our girls. He was a doting father, a father that was hands-on and present. He helped me bathe Bianca and Capri almost every night. He would sing them silly songs in the shower and continue making them laugh and smile as he lathered them in lotion and got them ready for bed.

He had magic arms and could put Capri to sleep in only a few minutes. He said he had it down to a science: eight times up and down our hallway. He loved taking Bianca to Fashion Island and watch her play in the Koi pond area and loved taking her to the park.

Their most recent visit to the Koi pond was the evening before he and GiGi passed. He shared a love of movies and the breakdown of films with Natalia. He enjoyed renting out theatres and taking Natalia to watch the newest "Star Wars" movie or "Harry Potter" films.

And they would have movie marathons and he enjoyed every second of it. He loved your typical tearjerkers, too. He liked watching "Step Mom," "Steel Magnolias," and "Little Women."

He had a tender heart. Kobe somehow knew where I was at all times. Specifically, when I was late to his games. He would worry about me if I wasn't in my seat at the start of each game and would ask security where I was at the first time-out of the first quarter.

And my smartass would tell him that he wasn't going to drop 81 points within the first 10 minutes of the game. I think anyone with kids understands that sometimes we can't make it out the door on time. And eventually, he was used to my tardiness and balled out.

The fact that he could play on an intense professional level and still be concerned by making sure we made it to the game safely was just another example of how family came first to him.

He loved being Gianna's basketball coach. He told me he wished he would have convinced Natalia to play basketball so they could have spent even more time together.

But he also wanted her to pursue her own passion. He watched Natalia play in a volleyball tournament on her birthday, on January 19th, and he noticed how she's a very intelligent player. He was convinced she would have made a great point guard, with her vision of the court.

And he told me that he wanted Bianca and Capri to take up basketball when they get older, so he could spend just as much time with them as he did with GiGi. And Kobe always told Bianca and Capri that they were going to grow up and play basketball and 'mix they ass up.'

Now they won't have their daddy and sister here to teach them, and that is truly a loss I do not understand. But I'm so thankful Kobe heard CoCo say 'Dada.' He isn't going to be here to drop Bianca and Capri off at Pre-K or kindergarten. He isn't going to be here to tell me to 'get a grip, V,' when we have to leave the kindergarten classroom or show up to our daughter's doctor's visits for my own moral support.

He isn't going to be able to walk our girls down the aisle or spin me around on the dance floor while singing "PYT" to me. But I want my daughters to know and remember the amazing person, husband and father he was.

The kind of man that wanted to teach the future generations to be better and keep them from making his own mistakes. He always liked working and doing projects to improve kids' lives. He taught us all valuable lessons about life and sports through his NBA career, his books, his showed detail, and his Punies podcast series, and we're so thankful he left those lessons and stories behind for us.

He was thoughtful and wrote the best love letters and cards. And GiGi had his wonderful ability to express her feelings and take paper and make you feel her love through her words. She was thoughtful like him. They were so easy to love.

Everyone naturally gravitated towards them. They were funny, happy, silly, and they loved life. They were so full of joy and adventure. God knew they couldn't be on this Earth without each other. He had to bring them home to have them together.

Babe, you take care of our Gigi. And I got Nani, Bibi and Coco. We're still the best team. We love and miss you, Boo-Boo and GiGi. May you both rest in peace and have fun in Heaven until we meet again one day. We love you both, and miss you, forever and always. Mommy.

Source: https://www.nbcnews.com/news/sports/kobe-b...

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